My husband and I took our 2 daughters 10, and 7 to see Taylor Swift this past weekend. I was so extremely saddened to see the amount of kids there without parents. I was shocked to see kids not much older than my 10 year old roaming around without an adult. I understand giving your teenages a little space, but alone at a sold out concert in downtown Cleveland? What is this world coming too. I would never dream of letting my kids attend a concert by themselves. I see kids posting things on this site, kids riding their bikes in town, kids alone at the mall. It is so scary. Anything can happen to these yound kids. Am I being over protective, old fashioned or just crazy? Please tell me I am not becoming an old fart!
Personally I don't think it is old fashioned, I think it is new paranoid. My sister and I use to bike/walk everywhere. The park was almost 1 mile, and I took her down there every weekend. My parents would drop us off at the mall when I was around 10/11 and window shop. No one then thought about us kids being stolen. I belive it is newer concept. Parents now adays don't even trust there kids to walk to the bus stop alone. My mom let me know go a concert alone when I was 14. She was there in the parents room only because it wasn't worth driving hom.
I hear what you are saying. It isn't that I wouldn't trust my kids, it's the other freaks out there. You can't turn on the news without some attempted child abduction or something sick. There is not the same environment now that we had growing up. I also remember doing things then I would never let my kids do now. I do think a hour drive to downtown Cleveland for a 3 hour concert is a bit much for most of these kids....
There are too many weirdos out there and kids don't have values anymore, so their parents need to supervise them. My mom served on the Grand Jury here and about half the cases were aggravated sexual assault on a child. Most of the went something along the lines of 12 or 13 year old was at a party and.... Where they heck were their parents? People are really bad here about letting small children play in the yard by themselves or expecting the 6 year old to watch the 2, 3, and 4 year olds. I think there are a lot of selfish, self absorded parents who need to start putting their kids' needs first. I think part of the problem comes from teen pregnency too. Teens have kids before they get a chance to live, so the second they can get away w/ it, they leave the kids by themselves and go live it up. Too answer you question, Mom and Dad (if he's even around) were probably off partying themselves.
haha hey. I'm 17 and have been to the taylor swift concerts with my friends and see what you mean about the younger kids being off without adults. This is retarded but kids of age 8 and older have cell phones, and so there parents figure oh well if anything goes wrong they can call or text me. Alot of parents don't care what we do anymore, my parents did care at when I was like ten, now they don't unless theres a guy involved which there always is. Parents just don't care anymore :/ They think there kids and themselves are invisible until there kid gets raped or napped.... Its unfortunate that parents give there kids so much slack anymore, its really not fare to the kids. Maybe that helps coming from a teens perspective!?
I really appreciate the feedback. My daughter is only 10 and so many of her friends have cell phones. My daughter gets upset some times. I am sorry, until she is driving and at risk for being stuck on the side of the road, I feel no need for her to have a cell phone. Seriously!!!!! Who can you be calling all the time at 10? She is in the 5th grade. A boy last year gave her chocolates and a stuffed animal for Valentines Day. I couldn't believe it. She is way too young. She felt funny, and embarassed from the gift. I try to stay active in her life. We talk about school, boys, friends, and her feelings. As long as she wants to talk to me, I will continue. I am hoping I am reading your post mypoodlerocks and hearing you wish your parents were more involved. We have talk time twice a week. She is able to bring up any issues she has. Sometimes there is nothing, sometimes there is little things. I am just hoping this is a way for her to get used to talking to me. He dad is also very involved with the kids. I think it helps we are a loving married family. I see a lot of kids in her school with divorced parents and they are the ones doing everything they shouldn't. Now before anyone yells at me for that, I was the product of a divorced family and chose to make the right choices, however, mo mom was my best friend growing up. I could talk to her about everything. Thanks for the input. It just makes me sad for these kids. So young with no guidance!
I have a 15 year old daughter and a 13 year old son. Oh boy, they want to go everywhere and do everything! Then, when I say "no" of course, I'm the bad guy! There are just too many bad things that happen to good kids; it's not like when we were growing up and you could acutally trust your next door neighbor.
Speaking of where are the parents, what about the kids with the internet these days? Oh my...they're here and there and everywhere! Parents have no clue what their kids are looking at or doing online (ahem) or who their kids are talking to...as long as they're not bothering them I guess.
Since my daughter has had cancer, we have really tightened our family ties. But still, she is going into remission now and wants to do more things. She says I'm an old fogey because I won't let her go where her friends go...I may be an old fogey but at least I know where my youngins are and that they're safe.
Friends will step in when the rest of the world steps out.
Maxpup, Thats awesome that you talk to you kids and stay apart of their life the way that you do! Your doing an awesome job! There gonna thank you for that someday!
the ten yr old boy gave her a teddy bear and chocolates on valentines day in elementary school? I don't get why the boys parents would allow him to think that thats ok at his age, I mean I could see the typical note or something like that.... haha
oxfordbostons, I'm really sorry that your daughter has cancer :(! Yea kids look up bad stuff on internet anymore, Its ten times worse than it was like three years ago, cuz now we connect our phones to websites, we have the itouch which gets internet. etc. Its just CrAzY! haha Haha, I can hardly wait until I have kids, thats when even more techy stuff is going to be coming out OH DEAR!!!!!
Parenting, sadly in many cases is not what it used to be.
This shouldn't come as all so surprising to us though because look where our modern "values" have taken us. This generation of children are exposed to obesity, war and I am sure that full frontal nudity will be just another night watching cable TV in the not too distant future. I cringe to even think what peer pressure is like for these kids.
They are growing up way too fast with far too little guidance and nurturing.
"Try to get beside yourself, This tearing at your insides, If you end up on the wrong side Always standing so strong. Sharpen up your teeth Your dreams are more than worth defending, In a fight that's
IMO, it's not that times are more dangerous now than when I was a kid (I'm 31), but thanks to the internet and 24/7 news channels, we now hear about it all the time. There were still pedophiles and kidnappers when we were kids, but it didn't make the national news every half hour. Now, when something happens, it's all over the internet and TV. The cable news stations play the same news stories every half hour. I am not saying that the world is a happy-go-lucky place, but now we are more aware of it.
Also, I find that many parents in my generation are not taking personal responsibility for the upbringing of their children. They assume that teachers and daycare will do it for them. Too many parents are not teaching their children good manners, proper public behaviour, decorum, and decency. However, they are teaching them "It's all about you. You have rights and everyone has to respect that." They are not teaching them to have any respect for other people or their property. I see this every day when I am at a store with my kids (they're 10 and 5).
When I am at the store with my kids, they must be within sight at all times, keeps their hands to themselves, and generally behave. My kids also know that there are real consequences for misbehaving that will be swift, unpleasant, embarrasing, and in front of everyone. That is another issue I have with some other parents. They seem to not enforce any consequences on their kids. Some times I hear "Well, he has ADD/ADHD" or "Their Bi-Polar" (which is difficult at best to diagnose in a child). How many of these kids just need to channel their energy and learn how to appropirately express themselves? How many of the parents in these situations drug their kids as an easy way out? I understand that there are some with real problems, and I mean no insult to those. It's the others that I worry about.
Sorry for the long post. This is a hot topic for me.
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One thing that hasn't been mentioned-- many parents could be there but be up in the stadium seats when the kids are on the floor space. When I was 14 or so my friend and I went to see Nelson. Her parents took us and they were there the whole time, but nobody standing down on the floor with us would have known that.
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that matter, don't mind...And those that mind....don't matter."
Shiny, I thought of that too. But, some of these kids were my daughters age. Way to young. It is a sold out arena, and packed with young girls. No way would I let mine sit without me. Magnificent...I agree. My kids have only thrown a fit once in the store because they couldn't get something. I say once because that is all it took. We get complimented frequently when out at a restauraunt with our kids. It is our job as parents to make sure our kids are raised with manners, respect, and integrity. I am tired of excuses as well. It is our generation I have noticed. I am 36 and my girls are 10 and 7.
I hope youíre not considered and old fart because you are careful with your children. I have a 7 year old niece and I wonít let her leave the yard by herself let alone be at a concert! The world is not what it was 15 years ago you canít just trust that they are safe anymore. There are a lot of sick people out there. We canít play outside at my momís house because the guy next door is a level 3 offender. He lived there for almost 5 months before we got the flier! You never know anymore, I couldnít imagine leaving her anywhere.
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