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What can I say to help?
Our friends girl cheated again
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Bauza1986
Posted: 2:36:46 AM 10/11/2009
I just posted about my friend Reggie today in the dog forum, and now his heart is broken! He is a good man and he has been there for this girl for almost 4 years and she stabs him in the back. I am furious to say the least. He has tried so hard to make her happy and this is not the first time she has done this, and this time it was his best friend. The friend knows he just made the biggest mistake of his life, but she feels betrayed and wants to make Reggie feel bad. What can I say to him to let him know he is right? How do I help him feel better? He is a really good guy and he treated her like gold just to have his heart broken. It’s just not right. I can’t stand to see him like this.
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Do not walk behind me I might not lead.
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NoDogYet
Posted: 10:02:55 AM 10/11/2009
My best advice is to not worry about saying anything at all. If you're fixated on what you should say, you are really focusing on YOUR feelings instead of his.

The best thing you can do is LISTEN.
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doggiecomehome
Posted: 9:59:21 AM 10/12/2009
I don't understand the story very much or you saying that he forgave his friend, and not her ,and that is why she is betrayed. Or is she betrayed because he shares personal information with you.

It also sounds like you are in love with this Reggie guy .

I wouldn't say a lot of bad stuff about the girlfriend because when they get back together you will be the bad guy in the whole mess.
Bauza1986
Posted: 3:28:10 PM 10/12/2009
He did forgive his friend but this is the 4th time she has cheated on him. She feels that by the friend telling Reggie what happened he is betraying her trust. He has really helped my husband and I through our first year of marriage so we owe him. I really like your advice NoDogsYet, it worked really well. I guess having someone there listening just helps people work out their own problems. We sat and listened and Reggie talked himself through it. He wants to move out and try to move on, he will be fine now. Thanks so much for your help.
Do not walk in front of me I might not follow.
Do not walk behind me I might not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend.
schoolbus gal
Posted: 2:08:57 PM 10/14/2009
There's nothing you can say...He made his choice when he returned to her knowing what she was.

There was a little girl walking through the woods. It was a cold crisp day. She came upon a rattlesnake and he was cold. He looked up at her and begged her to help him get warm.Please, he said, "just put me in the folds of your coat for just a few minutes. I'm cold and need your help."
She said, "No you're a rattlesnake and you'll bite me and kill me"

No, said the snake, I'll be so grateful, I'd never do anything like that...Please? Just for a few minutes?"

So the girl gently lifted him up and put him in the folds of her coat.. " IS that better, she asked him?
"Oh yes that's really nice"

When she arrived at her destination, she started to lift him out and he bit her. She lay there, dying from the toxins and looked at him and said, How could you do this to me? I trusted you."

His reply was, YOU KNEW WHAT I WAS ALL ALONG.

'nuff said

gibbons1973
Posted: 9:43:48 AM 11/1/2009
You mentioned this girl has betraied your friend before, me personely have never been cheeted on but if it did happen to me i would throw her straight out the door am lieing there she wouldn't even get back in the door it would break my heart but some things have got to be done if he takes her back everthink will be huncky dorey meaning ok for a while but your friend would never be able to trust her again so what kind of relasionship is that going to befor them both plus its best just to listen to him and say nothing negative towards her as one member said it will back fire on you if they get back together tell, him from a liverpool england lad get rid of bad rubbish as you americans say kick her to the kerb tell your friend i hope he finds happiness in someone else
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normap
Posted: 10:49:40 PM 11/1/2009
A little late, but I have to echo N.D.Y. and say just be there to listen.... If it develops into something else, fine, but right now he just needs someone to LISTEN>

Good luck, the hardest part is not to judge but to listen (( ))
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Posted: 1:35:51 PM 12/5/2009
If you're fixated on what you should say, you are really focusing on YOUR feelings instead of his.
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***Edited By: danova on 12/17/2009 8:32:55 AM***
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