My dog Annie has a Hemangiosacmoa, a large tumor in her abdomen. She was diagnosed about 6 month ago. She has had 3 or 4 times were she has had a bleed and I think the end is near and then she bounces back. I am on this site trying to determine if the time has come. Just before Thanksgiving She had another episode. When this happens she does not eat and all daily functions become difficult. I waited to call the vet because of the holiday. It is know a week later and she is eating and back to what has become normal. One of the ongoing problems is she has lost control of her bladder. She is peeing in the house. I have removed all the area rugs and have limited her to the tile floor with a blanket. Last night she lost her water while laying down right in front of me. When I got up this morning she had had 2 accidents on the floor. I am struggling with the decision of putting her down. When she has a bleed and is in discomfort the decision seems obvious, but after a few days of recovery it becomes very difficult. I want to do the right thing for her and me. I think this is becoming a quality of life issue. I feel I am limiting her by having to remove the comforts of every day surroundings. She is about 12 years old and I have had her for over 10 years. I want to do what is right for my old friend and struggle with what is right for her and me.
Losing a family member can be extremely hard, I am so very sorry you are going through this. No one else can make this decision for you, you have to make it on your own. You have to consider her quality of life, and the pain she is going through. Just remember the wonderful times you had together to keep her memory alive. When I lost my dog two years ago (he was just shy of turning 19 years of age) I had him privately cremated, and put up pictures on his urn. You will know when the time is right.
Animals, what animals? My children just have alot of hair!
Talk to her, I know it sounds stupid, but it has worked for me. Ask her to let you know when she is ready. Every dog I have put down has givin me some sort of small sign. You have recognize it, and only you would know. My boss does this also, and we find it very comforting to know they said it is time.
Every pet you lose is very hard, my heart goes out to you. Her quality of life has to be your formost thought. If overall she has not quality, then it is time. Also, to help make your life easier, they make doggie diapers. My shar pei would pee in my kitchen, and I purchased a swiffer wet jet to help clean up. It was a lifesaver. I was lucky, he would only pee in the kitchen.
My heart goes out to you. Unfortunately, this is the hardest part of owning any pet but sooner or later we all face it. Here's a little poem that I hope will help you in your decision.
The Last Battle If it should be that I grow frail and weak And pain should keep me from my sleep, Then will you do what must be done, For this -- the last battle -- can't be won. You will be sad I understand, But don't let grief then stay your hand, For on this day, more than the rest, Your love and friendship must stand the test. We have had so many happy years, You wouldn't want me to suffer so. When the time comes, please, let me go. Take me to where to my needs they'll tend, Only, stay with me till the end And hold me firm and speak to me Until my eyes no longer see. I know in time you will agree It is a kindness you do to me. Although my tail its last has waved, From pain and suffering I have been saved. Don't grieve that it must be you Who has to decide this thing to do; We've been so close -- we two -- these years, Don't let your heart hold any tears.