it has been almost two months since i had to put down my beloved companion Beanie on March 4th and i still cry everyday. i have got a new chihuahua after waiting a month to morn but my old one still consumes so much of my thoughts. will this ever get ANY better? i need some encouragement. any one out there?
People who never have been dog lovers have trouble understanding how we can grieve them. )Our dog was your loving companion who always loved it wjen you came home - and showed you that joy. You had a relationship and you would Grieve that death under any circumstances, but wHen you've had to make the decision to release them from their suffering, it is even harder.
I had to put down my 13 year old cockapoo. She had seen me through tough times, including my mother's death. All she asked in life waS to please me. I only made it 3 days without a new dog in my life. I made the decision to find a totally different type of dog tyo minimize comparisons.
It helped a little when I fell in love with a Elkhound-Sheltie cross male puppy that just wouldn't let the girls in the litter get ointo myu lap.
Having a new pup kept me busy and helped distract me, but in the quiet times the grief would surface. It took me almost a year before I finally could think of 9rivket without it waking that grief, but eventually the memories came to give me comfort and laughter.
I lost my "replacement" dog in August. He was 18 years old and died suddenly of a stroke. I'm still grieving him, but each day is a little easier. At this time my health precludes me adopting, but I hoPe that someday soon I'll h?e the souind of four little feet pattering through the house.
Take it easy con yourself. Grief knows no clopck or calendar. Give yourself peRmission to grieve and then turn around and enjoy your new roommate. Give yourself over to the healing powers of puppy kisses and the unique personality with which you now share your life. But I think expecting yourself to just geyt overt a love in 2 months is being too hard on yourself.
It was 2 years last Sunday that we had to have out 13 year old Maltese put to sleep. I still think about her everyday and cry some too but I am glad knowing that she is no longer in pain and in a better place. I got a maltese puppy that was born on the day that we had Missy PTS and she has helped a lot. She is nothing like Missy, a lot smaller and so full of the devil and she has not taken Missy's place, but made a new place for herself in our hearts. We will never forget Missy and I tear up even now, just writing this. It does get easier to some degree, but our pets are part of the family and to lose them is very difficult.
I'm sorry for your loss. It does get easier, and begins to hurt less, but it could take some time. It's perfectly okay to grieve, for as long as you need to. Eventually, you won't cry every day.. Occasionally, a thought might come to mind and you might cry even years later. Right now looking at pictures and other things that remind you probably make you break out in sobs, but one day they will bring a smile (and maybe misty eyes as well). We never forget the ones we love.
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that matter, don't mind...And those that mind....don't matter."