Since I have been on this board for alittle while now, I am starting to remember member names. I'm starting to remember what types of dogs ya'll have, what kinds of hobbies ya'll do... I know that ltlgto shows poodles. And Allie shows in juniors with her chihuahua. I know that Scout has a way with words and the majority wants her to become a moderator. It's almost like a circle of friends I have never met. And we all come on here and talk everyday. We all share common interests. We all have advice to give and receive, and we all think our dogs are the most adorable things on the whole planet :) All this being said, I thought I would ask ya'll something since we are all pretty familiar with each other. (And being as how I definately wouldn't ever want to offend someone that I talk to on a regular basis). I was thinking that each of us could go through and list things that offend us. Not pet peeves per say, but rather things that could be mentioned in this forum that would offend us. And by offensive, I mean offends you personally. Not that you hate fights or arguements about such and such. Specifics. Something that if someone said to you personally or indirectly, would get you in an arguementative state. If that makes sense. That way, we can use this as a key when we are leaving comments so that we know what to be careful of in respect to other people's feelings. Kind of like the 'designer mutt' thing Ansy and Allie and I were talking about. It's so hard to tell what offends a person. And sometimes it happens on accident and then causes a ruckus, even though that wasn't the poster's intention. So I guess I will start. If ya'll don't think this is a lame idea, feel free to share as well. I think you all are a great bunch of people and I have had a lot of fun in here so far. :) So here goes: I would get offended if someone told me that I am 'stupid' or wrong for my opinion. I love debate, and if someone doesn't agree with me, that is totally fine by me. I don't get upset easily, and am fine having a mature debate. But if they flat out tell me I'm wrong or call me names to belittle me into feeling like they are correct, that would really offend me.
I just don't like name calling. I don't care though if someone gets mad at me because it doesn't effect the way I live my life. And I don't change my oppinion just because someone disagrees with it. I love this board. Its probably one of the only forums I actually like. I'm addicted. By the way I have the Great Dane. What type of dog do you have?
Hmmm... It is really hard to offend me unless you go out of your way to do it. Of course, I don't like breed bashing, but then again, sometimes people owning the breed being asked about are so defensive that they take a legitimate question offensively. On another forum, I posted a picture of my dog and asked which style of APBT everyone thought she closely resembled.There were pictures of 3 styles. Someone answered that by pointing out all the confirmation faults in my dog and saying she looked like a poorly bred BYB dog. Of course, I was aware that she is no show dog, but the comment still made me hurt and offended. Especially since that is not what I was asking.
Hmmmm, I guess the thing that offends me is when I feel as though people are not taking my opinions into consideration. I hate when I make a statement and someone immediatly tells me I am totally wrong and won't consider my point of view. Of course, I am not always right and don't expect everyone to agree with me all of the time, but I at least like to have my points taken into consideration before they're blown off or criticized.
Shinyblack, Thats a terrible thing to say to someone! I would have been hurt, too, if I were in that situation. I know Ace is from a pet store but if someone came up to me and had the guts to tell me he looked poorly bred or whatever I would still be angry.
Personally the only thing that really gets under my skin is breed bashing. I understand everyone has their own likes and dislikes but I think saying outright I don't like such and such breed their ugly dogs cannot only be hurtful to a persons feelings but it's also just plain Rude! If there is a particular breed I am not fond I keep it to myself. Just like Mom used to say "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all."
Paige, you have Oscar right? Couldn't ever forget that dog! Gorgeous! I'm totally jealous...hehe..but I LOVE large breed dogs, like Mastiffs and Danes. :) I have a yellow lab/cattle dog mix. He looks exactly like a yellow lab, but he has really light tan spots on his back and ticked marks on his legs. He was due to be euthenized at the shelter that day, and it just broke my heart because he was only 8 weeks old and such a sweetie. I was actually holding out to buy a mastiff or dane when I had the money and was just at the shelter to look into fostering, but I couldn't resist Hunter. :)
I don't like people going out of their way to be mean or rude to another person. Like GinaH said, if you can't say something nice..... I don't like the breed bashing either. I know that the majority of us feel the same way about all breeds, these posts always seem to turn nasty. I always swear I'm staying out of it, but it is extremely hard to do. I can't keep my mouth shut in person either :)
I am offended when some comes here asks for advice and then gets upset for the answer they recieve. I am personally offended because i take great pride in what i have learned about dogs (and what i am still learning).
What a great post! Well as some of you already know - I am highly offended by the term "designer mutts" (because there is no such thing) and "mutts" when applied to a cross bred dog. I do not like it when someone states their opinion as a fact. For example "No responsible breeder would ever cross breed his dogs". This is not a fact, yet a belief that one has in their opinion of what a responsible breeder is. The word 'responsible' means different things to different people. I get offended when people bash a registry that allows cross bred dogs - yet they have NO affiliation with it and has no idea what their guidelines are, no idea how the club runs, or anything about it for that matter. How can you 'judge' something that you don't know anything about? Thats like saying "I hate that car because it's red" when you have never even driven it to see how well it drives. I also do not like breed bashing and usually find myself irritated when I see the comment "people who breed cross breeds are irresponsible". I do admit that a great deal of them are, but generalizing all of them is not fair to those who do take it seriously. I find it offensive that some say a cross bred dog cannot have a pedigree (that only a pure breds ancestry can be tracked). I just wish people could be more open and accepting about these dogs. YES, give the BYB's and puppy mills a HORRIBLE time - I'm all for that, but when someone comes on looking for a labradoodle to buy -don't first try to change their mind and send them to a shelter. Casually mention the shelter in case they were unaware that was an option. Also mention spay & neutering - but don't force it down their throat. Lastly, ALWAYS tell them not to buy from a BYB or puppy mill but assure them that there ARE responsible breeders out there for the dog of their choice. My complaints usually all the time come in the form of cross breeding. For once, I'd really like to see a 'nice', educational (not in the form of changing someones mind) post on the topic. I do realize that some of you have some VERY strong feelings about this subject, but please understand that my feelings are just as strong. We can all agree that we don't want irresponsible breeders, BYB's and puppy mills - but those categories are not made up soley by cross bred breeders. Sorry my list was so long, but it was nice to be able to get some of these things out in the open.
ansy. you seem to be the most passionate person about cross-breeds. I am not agains cross breeds. i was, but now reformed. i do not see anything morale wrong with a dog that was crossed on purpose. And what people sell and buy dogs for is there own buisness. Some claims breeders make about the dogs might not be true. but i have come to realize that is none of my concern either. so i guess why don't you inform the rest of the forum on cross breeds.
i am not sure offended is the right term but i really don't like the cursing that has become common place on this board. i by no means in real life don't curse but to outright tell someone their an a-hole is uncalled for and immature. i am one who can take criticism well so not much really bothers me. i have been on here awhile and i haven't yet seen anyone who deserves to be called rude names.
I agree with Ansy about cross breeding, but have absolutely nothing to back that up. Hopefully she can bail us both out. I do not like the fact that a person can't ask a question and have it answered directly. I am not really offended, but do not like it when people bash little dogs........any breed really. Calling people names is totally out of line in my opinion.
I have learned to take many posts here with a grain of salt. I'm not offended too easily, unless I'm personally attacked. When I first came here, I noticed alot of bickering going on and one of my first threads...mls said something sarcastic *i think*. I went way on the defensive, and have since grown to love her posts. I think most internet disputes happen when people take things the wrong way and don't realize the "mood" of what the poster is saying.
scout i made you some coffee. did you get it. who called who an a--hole. i always miss the good stuff. oh scout check out the topic called 'this forum'. last night some lady named gal500 got everyone all spun up. she was a kind of strange you got read it. it's great.
there has really been nothing done to or about me that irks me (thanks guys!). but one thing that gets my goat is some of the troll postings, that we all know we should ignore and dont, then they continue for pages and pages until captain deleto takes them down. we all need to make a pact- no replies to trolls! no matter how tempting to have the last word! i too am guilty of this... :( but if we stop, so will they. other than that i find this a great place to come fo rinformation and also find mostly everyone to be helpful, informative, adn generally nice to others!
Eskie you are right. We shouldn't reply, but man it is so tempting. The only thing for me is that sometimes (not always) I don't realize it's a trouble maker until it's too late. Of course we could always stop then. Anyway, I agree and I will try to be more diligent. It's true that these are the posts that go on and on and on.
Not saying it could not happen, but I'm maybe a bit less sensitive to criticism than most. Because of my working enviornment. I work in an Arabic bar/restuarant. You would be shocked at what many people say when they think you don't speak their language. I work mostly w/ Armenians. They call people Ahboosh a lot. It means dummy. Word is fun to say. You tend to drawl it out...Ahbooosssh! Anyway people who are dummies calling other people dummies can be laughable. I agree that some people should just get no response. If you have nothing nice to say...etc.