Before we got Bella, my cat was always the center of attention in our house. They are playing more now and my cat isnt running and hiding everytime Bella comes around. We have tried to give the cat as much attention as possible, but he just seems like he's lost his spirit. He always comes downstairs when we go out with Bella and sits at the window because he wants to play outside too. Last night Mark had Bella on his lap and I went over to give the cat some attention and he bit me. Occaisonally he will come up on my lap if hubby is out with Bella, but most of the time he just sits on his post staring at me as if to tell me that I broke his heart. Will it get better? Does anyone else have any experience with this? We have had the cat for 4 years, he was rescued from a dumpster where my husband works when he was a teeny tiny kitten. Thanks for your input.
Awww.............I feel sorry for him. It sounds like he is jealous and mad. I don't know much about cats but my best friend had a cat that got that way after her baby was born. It never acted nice again. I think it thought it had been replaced.
I'm hoping that I don't experience the same problems...Zoe (the cat) never went into hiding, and she's actually starting to chase Adley (the dog) around the house. She does want to come outside with us, but when I come back in I make sure she gets the added attention and some treats.
We had a one-year old dog when we got a puppy, and we just really went out of our way to make sure we showered her with more attention than usual, because the puppy was getting so much attention. I think you should just make an effort to hold and cuddle the cat more and spend some time playing with it, even if you don't feel like it. I really believe animals' feelings get hurt when a new "baby" comes along, so they need to be reassured that they're still loved just as much as the new one.
Thank you for your replies. I do think things are getting a little better. The cat is initiating more play with the dog, rather than the dog just chasing it. I just feel so bad about it all. I would have no problem with them both on my lap, but they arent going for that quite yet.
bella- my kitty had the same problem. in a span of 2 months, we went from just the two of us, to moving in my b/f and his dtr and then getting a puppy. she got really mad when they moved in and she stqarted not being able to sleep with me. then the puppy coming didnt help. now that we have 2 puppies we see her more, b.c the dogs leave her be, and she'll come around and let us pet her. but she gets nippy and biting when she doesnt want to be bothered. just keep loving on her and give her time. she's adjusting to the new household pack.
I did give the kitty some extra attention today when I let the dog out to go potty. The dog came up to the door and was watching and started barking...she is jealous when I give kitty attention. Maybe its better for her to see it though and get used to my giving them equal time.