Ok, quick history - For a variety of reasons, I called it quits with my fiance of 3 years and BF of 6 last week. (If you want the details, email email@example.com) It's my apartment, and he left. Minnie has been super mopey lately, and will lay in the kitchen waiting for Joe to come through the door. I have changed her routine: we walk a different way to the park, I have put away all the toys that were there a week ago and replaced them with new ones, I have cleaned the place top to bottom with a different, new smelling soap, but no dice. She doesn't want to eat, I have to add baby food or cottage cheese to get her to eat, she's not being a playful little (ok, huge) puppy, which she was a week ago. There are no symptoms that would indict anything physically wrong - i.e. something that would require a trip to the vet's office. Any suggestions? Thanks!
Okay, let me try to sort through this one. Did your bf have a dog that he took with him? Why did you put all of the toys away? Maybe thats the problem. I know dogs will go through things like that. When i took the kids on vacation a few years ago, my other Shepherd did not sleep or eat much either. Always waiting at the door. I do not think the Vet can do anything for depression. There are dog shriks or so I've heard. Do you think it could be medical?
Hmmm. That is a tough one. Sounds like good 'ol separation anxiety. Kinda like when puppies are separated from their mother and littermates. When you got Minnie did she bond directly with your BF/Fiance? I know this may sound a little corny (and I sure can't blame you if you don't want to do it) but do you have one of his shirts, or socks, or something that he has worn that might have his scent on it? If you do- try giving it to Minnie when she goes to bed. I know it seems like you will be playing second string to your ex for a while but Minnie will eventually come out of this and it's you she will bond with. I applaud your efforts already, it may be something that just takes time. Best of luck!
aisha, re: toys~I usually change her toys every month or so anyway with fresh ones, and then recycle them through, and it was about that time anyway. I could pull a few down, though. and to answer the other question: Minnie has always been a mommy's girl. Minnie was a "don't be mad at me" gift from BF. At the time, he was travelling for his job, so he literally came home one night with her, and was gone the next morning. He would travel frequently, so my bond with Minnie is a lot stronger, (I think! I hope!) Pups - No, in my cleaning frenzy, that all went to my good friends down at the Goodwill. Thanks for your help guys!
Poor Minnie! She probably just misses him. Have you guys arranged for him to take her for a day or two every once in awhile? If she was very attached to him it might be good for her. If not, I think she'll be ok in time, she'll get used to him not being around. I hope she feels better soon! =0) You've got my e-mail if you ever want to talk or vent! **kris, abby, ace & summer
Sorry, guys, crazy busy over here. Kris - no way in he!! is he taking Min anywhere. She's too much a responsibility for him. (Reason 1 million and 4 why I couldn't take it anymore). She's getting better, she's still kinda mopey, but we are playing and she's getting frisky again, so I think we are almost there. Although there are times when she looks over her shoulder at me and is like, "where is he?"
It works for almost every dog. Take your dog to petsmart. Let her sniff and pick out her OWN toys. Allow her to choose her own bag of treats. Buy a classical music c.d. that has wolf howling in it. I have one called "wolfsong" and it mixes rain and wolves with classical music pieces. Then, if she is friendly toward other dogs, take her to the dog park. Let her play and get the men off of her mind. I hope this helps. Please try it!
1. What breed is you baby? 2. Have you told her whats going on? 3. How do you feel about everything? Maybe shes picking up on your feelings. Maybe not thats its over but that it was 6 years of your life. Maybe you both need new toys, and treats? Maybe you both need to "date" with another dog and his/her owner. I hope she (and you) are feeling better soon.
We are planning a trip to Petsmart tomorrow, and we are getting a new bunch of toys, and yes, we go to the park so she can play. I talk to Min all the time, and I'm pretty sure she knows whats going on. Felt like a dork, but I explained the whole thing to her. She understands my moods, sure, but honestly, I've been fine. Last night, when I was the on the phone with my mom, I was upset, and she came right up to me and licks the tears off my face. Yes, the sweetest thing. She wouldn' t let me leave her sight for the rest of the night. I think she understands, but she had no real problems with him, so she doesn't quite get it.