I have had a kitten for 5 weeks that still will not have anything to do with me. She loves my other 2 cats, but does not want any contact with a human in the house. She hides under the bed during the day and comes out after my kids are in bed. Every evening I try to coax her into being petted. Sometimes she will allow me to touch her after giving her a few treats, but other times she just runs if I get too close. We go through the same thing every day. I am getting extremely frustrated!! My other cats can't get enough attention and I am not used to having to beg for a cat's affection. What should I do? Will she eventually come around or should I consider giving her back to the shelter where I got her?
it is hard to say whether or not she will come around. do you know the history of this cat ? was she found as part of a stray litter ? cats are not always very social creatures. some give it up and some make you work for it. how old is she ? some cats don't appreciate alot of noise. it could be that your kids are too much for her. my cats hide when my son and his friends are playing. i am sorry i can't be of more help.
She is about 5 or 6 months old. I think she was from an abandoned litter. She is very sweet when I do get to touch her and will purr imediately. But we have not made any progress with her human socialization. Each time I come near her is like a new exprience for her.
scout1 is right, some cats do make you beg for attention from them. I have never had cats, but I have several friends who do, and none of thier cats will have anything to do with them unless they are hungry :). Most times they will not see their cats for several days they do such a good job of hiding. I would not return her to the shelter unless you are uncomfortable with her, she may just not be a good match for YOU, although her hiding may not be anything personal for her...if that makes sense.
I rescued an injured feral adult cat about five years ago. He adored my other cat (also an adult male...go figure), but was terrified of me. I made sure that he saw me put food and treats out but otherwise ignored him because human attention was frightening for him. Over time, he stopped hiding when I was in the room, and now he sleeps cuddled up to me every night and often crawls into my lap to get attention. I still can't just walk up to him and pick him up, but I don't mind (unless I'm trying to put Advantage on him). If you're patient and don't push, your cat will probably start to relax, especially when the cat notices that the other cats love getting attention from you.