My wife and I have a 10 week old black lab. She had an accident on the floor yesterday. I had read in a book to grab her by the scruff of the neck and give a firm shake. I did this and carried her outide by the scruff of her neck. Now everytime you pull just a little on the scruff of her neck she cries (I know it is not hurting her, but she is scared). She is now scared of me as well. I don't want her to be scared of me or try to nip or bite if a little kid touches her neck. How do I correct this?
Unfortunately, your book was wrong. Who is the idiot who wrote it?
You should not have grabbed her by the scruff of the neck. You should not have shook her. You did hurt her. Now she is afraid of you.
When a puppy begins to urinate inside the house, all you need to do is say "NO!", then pick her up and put her outside. When she is outside, then you tell her "Good girl, good puppy".
Take her outside frequently. If she is outside and does her "business" praise her ("Good girl"). Labs are smart and she will learn pretty quickly, but you will damage your relationship with her if you harm her.
Puppies are quite resilient, I'm sure with a little time and a lot of loving, she'll forget all about it. No one's perfect, I know I've made mistakes raising my dogs, but you move on and do your best. One thing I read that if for some reason you are too rough with a dog, to gently focus on that area with touch. Like when you brush or rub her, make sure to get her scruff real good while praising her. As for the potty training, well, good luck. I'm at four months and just starting to round the bend(I hope!). Welcome to the forum, and best wishes for you and your pup. Do you have any pics?
I hope that after reading all that you don't feel as if we are all ganging up on you. Everyone makes mistakes...I know that I certainly have. Just do the best you can with your new guy and ask any and every question you have. That's what I did, and am still doing.
Hello, if you make it a bad experience inside the house, the dog is going to be afraid of going potty outside the house.
Your going to have to be patient with the dog. They are going to go potty in the house until they get a routine.
My neighbor rubes her dogs nose in the pee. Guess what? If you don't let the dog out everyday, same time. How is the dog going to learn. The dog cannot open the door and go out on its own. So, someone needs to start teaching the dog where to go and when you want him to go. I like using doggy doors. They are great for training as long as your yard is fully inclosed.
Its usually when they wake up in the morning first thing. After the dog has eaten and or drank something. Those are your clues. At least 15 to 20 minutes after.
Please make this experience a good one. Dogs need love and trust. Don't grab him and punish him for doing what is natural. You will have a bigger problem down the road. Make his pee pee experiece a happy one. Everytime his comes in and did his thing, prase him.
I think you're getting mixed up. In the experience I've had the only time you'd pick them up by the scruff was to gently pull them up so they're front feet arent on the ground and growl or so no. But that's usually for puppies that are aggressive or dominant.
And the fact that you picked her up by the scruff? How would you like to be grabbed by the back of the neck and carried outside? You'd be afraid too especially when that person is a good 5 feet or so bigger than you.
Bessie had the perfect advice. Your pup is so young and will get over it in no time at all! We have all done things that we shouldn't have done and we learn from our mistakes as you have. Just keep petting the baby around the neck area...this way, he'll know you mean him no harm.
Hi- It has been a REALLY long time since I've been to the site and posted, but I came back today and have been reading messages.
I can see why your puppy is afraid of you, but I think you can definitely regain her trust. I am also wondering what book you read this in. Scruff shaking IS a method of training, but i have never, ever heard of it being used as a correction for a housetraining accident. I have also never heard of carrying a dog by the scruff- I do think that would definitely hurt and frighten the dog. Scruff shaking in general is a controversial method- personally I am against it, but if you do it, it must be done very calmly and precisely, and I am afraid that often owners don't know how to do it correctly and effectively.
Trainers and training books are a dime a dozen- it would be good to read up on lot of methods of training and choose what you think it best. I made a lot of mistakes when my dog was a pup, don't beat yourself up over it. You obviously care because you came asking for advice. But definitely when you're trying to housebreak a dog, aversive, physical punishment will probably worsen the problem, not alleviate it. Good luck with your puppy!