almost 2 yr old female pom pom. she is very afraid, of other dogs of people. tail is always down, only stays in a corner. looks malnutritioned, afraid to eat, but does. vet says need a lot of tlc and proper meals. advice on how to help pom pom feel safe and tlc????
My suggestions are just to make sure you continue to socialize her as much as possible. Take her for walks, let her run around (if you have a fenced in yard) with you and play with her.
How do your other animals react to her? Are they friendly? Aggressive? Do they give her some space?
I'm glad to hear she's eating and in no time, you'll get her back to health...it's going to take time with her fearfulness though...just be patient with her and keep on letting her know you love her :o)
Hi, congrats on your new Pom. What kind of situation was she in? I would set up a crate for her in a out of the way area, a place she can retreat to when overwhelmed. Just take it slow and easy for a while.
My Mazel came to me like that, in her first weeks she was VERY tramatized and was very depressed. She litterally didnt make a sound, had very low confidence and was very shy of people's hands. First I gained her trust and once I had her trust I was able to introduce her to new situations and since she has confidence in me she herself gained confidence. At the begining things would really set her back confidence wise. When I sent her to be spayed when we got her back she was a mess. It kind of shattered her trust in me and she was quite depressed for days. Over time things tramatize her less and at this point she is a VERY confident dog in most situations. Little things however sometimes cause her more stress then they should and she is left with some strange quirks.
The process that you now have to embark on in a long one. I think the first thing that you need to do is build her trust. Really try and bond with her and try your best to make every interaction with her a positive one. Feed her really well, quality dog food, stay with her while she eats if it makes her feel better, she will appreciate the food more then you can imagine. Also give her toys, play with her (gently as to not scare her). Once you have a good bond with her start working on socializing her in the outside world, give her lots of support but make sure that if she reacts to something in a scared way you do not coddle her (she will take this as being rewarded for this behavior and this will encourage it). It is a hard thing to do, just try not to push it to far, it is a kind of fine line. If you are having problems you may want to consult a trainer on how to best work with her.
Also, setting up a crate that is 'her space' a place that she can feel safe and secure is a really important thing to do. My Mazel was from a place where she spent all day every day in a crate so metal cages terrify her. We have a soft sided carrier that serves the same function as a crate and she LOVES it.
Thank you everyone for the great advice :). I think everyone is right...help her build trust. I have three other dogs. My Chihuahuas let her do whatever they don't mind. My doxie is more playful and possessive, but today everything seems to go more better. the pom is eating and moving around much more. I gave her a good bath and combed her hair. Gave her some flea meds.
She's very quiet. I have not heard her bark or growl, especially w/ my 6 and 4 yr.old tots. Her tail is always down, once in awhile when I approach her I see her tail wag, but then she lays down on her back, being very submissive....poor thing.....I hope she really can start feeling the warmth and love we are trying to show to her.
She is very much like the chihuahua who we took in.
Is is normal that some dogs always have their tail down or under their legs??? When will they start feeling safe around people??
Just treat her as you normally treat any other dogs around the house. Assign her a place of her own, take her out with you sometimes, just the 2 of you. I usually have my babies take turns on trips to the pet store, the park, relatives/friens houses. When we come back they feel like the queen/king of the world. They love goint to the park, petstore, etc. It takes time and patience but if you give her afection/atention/love, she'll come around slowly.
Talk to her, dogs understand the tone of voice and can relate to a nice tone, so she can start to trust you.
Pet her alot, give her alot of kisses/hugs.
One thing that works wonderfully is TREATS. If you want to win a dog over you gotto have them, no doubt about it!
My daughter and I treat our dogs the same way but guess who they prefer, ME, why? I have the goodies!
Please give her a hug and kiss from me.
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