Four years ago was the first time we let our other dog out of the bedroom where she was being confined so she could sniff her "brother" after he was "gone", per the vet's strong recommendation, & she actually seemed able to "understand" in a way that others didn't in the past so we're convinced the vet was right.
In the past all our other dogs knew was that "Mom" & "Dad" were wracked with pain, sobbing uncontrollably, & their "buddy" was no where to be found. In this instance Shiloh came bounding out of the bedroom & down the hallway, stopped only briefly to sniff her "brother" as he laid on his favorite "blankie", gently nudged him once, never once appearing distressed in any way & she never showed any signs of depression! They had been together 24/7 for over nine years but I swear Shiloh understood immediately that her best buddy was no longer in that "shell" & was now in a far happier, pain-free, place; a message she tried to convey to my husband & me in our overwhelming sorrow. From that moment forward Shiloh never searched for her "brother" (as our other dogs have done in the past). Given such a sad "choice" in the future, we'll never do it any other way.
Ironically I personally can not bring myself to "view" a deceased (human) loved one & only (very painfully) choose to be with my dogs at the very end for all the times they were there for me during our time together but I do think dogs have a special sense about death & the loss of a loved one if allowed the opportunity for one last "good-bye old friend".
"lovemygirls", my heart goes out to you during this incredibly painful & difficult time. You & your husband are in my heart & prayers.
I don't remember where I had read/heard about doing this. It's just something that stuck in my mind. But looks like some others know about this too. The other pet has to morn also, what a better way for them to say goodbye.
Very sorry for your heartache. I know what you are going thru..
I made sure that when my Brutus passed, his buddy, Caesar, was allowed to see/sniff his body. Kinda like a wake/viewing is to a human, allowing those left behind some closure. Just seems like common sense to me, if a "viewing" is at all possible under the circumstances.
That is a really interesting idea. I never had to deal with the dog that is left behind. That post made me think about my dad's 2 dobies. They are together 24/7, and we often talk about how his younger one will deal with Elle's passing. It is something I will have to bring up when the time comes.
When my cat died a little more than a month ago, her sister went over and laid with her. Now these two never got along well and would fight and fight. But Whiskers just went over and laid next to her until we took Boo off to be cremated.
The rest of the night Whiskers laid in the spot where she had died, and where she had taken to hiding for the week prior to her death. Kinda like an ode to Boo. It was sweet.