I want to adopt a playmate for my 1-1/2 year old. Although we play with her frequently, she still seems to need more attention. I've asked my husband over and over to agree to adopt a playmate, but he is totally against it. I think I can get him to agree to agree to take on a foster dog as a first step. What do you think about this idea?
I think that everytime you ad a new member to your family that all family members should be in agreement. The one thing I don't understand is why one adults NO out weights another adults YES. Guess you need to continue negotiations. Try for the foster dog and see what his repsonce is for that. I think if he is saying no, then he needs to present his arguments as to why he feels this way. And you need to present yours as to why you want to add another dog to the family. Maybe you can find a way to meet in the middle. Good Luck
He's your friend,your partner,your defender your dog.You are his life,his love,his leader. He will be yours faithful and true to the last beat of his heart.You owe it to him to worthy of such devotion
I think it is most important that you ask your husband exactly why he does not want a second dog. Some reasons you can work through--for example if he is concerned that it is more work--by compromise. Especially if you already do most of the work yourself.
But other complaints are valid reasons not to get a dog: Maybe he does not want another dog because you pay less attention to him now that you have one dog. Or maybe he thinks you really can't afford a second dog.
I don't suggest fostering for the reason you provide. It requires really wanting to foster, for the sake of the dogs. Because unless you can find a rescue for toy dogs, you will probably be asked to foster larger dogs you would not want to own. Fostering requires initially quarantining new dogs in your home, away from your current dog, and you never know what you are going to get. The dogs you foster could end up being aggressive or even dangerous. I think that unless your heart is in it, it is not right for you.
A much better idea is to find a friend with a well socialized dog and see how they respond to play-dates, and even offer to watch the friends dogs while they are on vacation so you get to 'try out' two dogs. You may also be able to find dog socialization classes or a day-care that would serve the same purpose. If you can show your husband that your dog plays well with other dogs and would benenfit, maybe you can convince him.
Just talk to your husband and try to work through it. If you can come to an agreement, then adopt a dog you both want.
illini, Thanks so much for the info about fostering. I did not realize that you could not choose what kind of dog to foster. Your comments are very helpful. I will try to invite a neighbor's dog over for playtime and see how things go.
I have similar dilemma. My husband "doesn't want a second dog," but he tells me it's OK if I get another dog! He loves our dog and wants another one, but the expense, hassle, etc. makes him hesitate. I think he would be happy if I just went out and did it, but he's not going to tell me to. He knows I do most of the work for our first dog, so it would just be another furball for him to play with.
We have a lot of friends and family with dogs, and they bring their pets when they come over, usually a few time a month. Plus we have babysat for one friend in particular. So Bode has his dog "friends," some he likes, and some he just tolerates (he is VERY dominant so it's hit-or-miss). Right now I think he's happy with the status quo, and I think I am too, because we do a lot of things with him--take him shopping, to parties, traveling--that we might have to give up if we had two.
Here's Bode and some "friends."
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Is the black dog Bode? He's adorable. His playmate is gorgeous, too. What kind of dog is Bode? Is that you wearing the blue and white checkered shirt and your baby? If so, wow, you are gorgeous and baby is precious!
Bode is the black dog. The humane society said he is a chihuahua/Italian greyhound mix, but we think he is more likely a chihuahua/rat terrier mix. The first "friend" is an adult lab owned by a co-worker, and the second is a yellow lab puppy that belongs to family.
That's my friend and her baby. Those pictures were taken at a tailgate before a UIllinois football game. You can see my legs in the last picture :) I don't have kids yet, just a dog! This is me.
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