I am 37 years old, and we are thinking about haveing a child next year about this time(well starting). I have two older step kids aged 8 and 6. I would love to hear from others about how they cope with dogs and youngsters. I am nervous/anxious about handleing all of them. James is good with both, he walks the dogs and takes care of the kids just fine. I am just very nervous about the whole thing, and am afraid that the dogs will end up being neglected, although I can't see that happening. I guess I am looking for support, stories ideas that I can relate with. Or maybe you are an older female that had a child at such a late age.I am worried about that to.I will be like 39 when I have the baby. Genetics-My mother had my youngest brother at that age, and did fine. She had 5 kids all together, I am 6 years older then my brother. Any advantages to haveing a baby older? All comments gladly accepted. Susanne
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I was 35 when my last child was born and there is a 14 year span between her and her next sibling. My husband and I were in the process of adopting a one year old girl and owned a male Bullmastiff, a Collie/shephard female and a Bloodhound/Doberman female and a
I had 6 children and raised dogs all through their babyhood, and of course, I still am. I think you will find it surprisingly easy, although I do understand your being a bit nervous at having a baby a little later on. Although the baby takes up a good part of your day, they also sleep (if you get a good one!) 3 or 4 hours beween feedings. If you are planning on breast feeding that could leave you a little more tired, but your other children are a good age to help out a little bit around the house. Don't worry about the little things, if you're the type who likes a perfect schedule or a perfect house. Of course, your husband will also be a huge support, and any family you have will pitch in, hopefully. I think it's great to have a baby at your age. You know exactly what you want, everything is planned...you will be so delighted with your little miracle, everything else will fall into place. Your older children will be so attentive, and delighted with their brother or sister, not like some 2 or 3 year olds who can be so jealous, and really tire you out with their constant attention seeking. Personally, I would'nt worry about the dogs at all. You can already count on one of the boys to walk them, and when the baby gets bigger, you can turn it into a good opportunity to take all the kids with the baby in the stroller. You are definitely not the type to ignore your dogs, and they can take a little less attention too. I wish you all the best, a baby is a beautiful gift, and I'm sure you will be fine with all aspects of daily life.
I think there are lots of advantages of having children when you are older, I had mine when I was 36 and 38 and had absolutely no problems whatsoever, although I didn't have dogs at the time I did have a very demanding job with travelling abroad involved, I took my son with me on my first working trip abroad when he was only 5 weeks old (mum came with me). For me it was just a question of organisation, cooking batch meals at the weekend to freeze for the baby, I also breastfed for the first 3 months but didn't really find it too much of a problem. Of course for the first few weeks there is little chance of too much sleep, but I think you just generally tend to go on auto-pilot and again if your partner is willing to help out it will make all the difference. Looking back I don't regret waiting as it meant I was able to travel a lot, have a great social life and by the time I decided to have children I was ready to change my lifestyle and be more at home. Generally speaking I think you become more tolerant when you are older too which is a definite plus! From a medical point of view, I think as long as you keep yourself healthy with a good diet, take some exercise, it shouldn't be an issue, possibly your doctor will suggest an amniocentesis. Good luck!
I think the balance of having older children that are of the age that they can have some of the responsibility of caring for the pets in your household is very helpful. I can speak from experience that I have two dogs with a 2 kids (3 year old and a 5 month old)What I did with my dogs is that we still have our "special" time before the kids wake up and after they go to bed. I also, found a dog playgroup in my area which meets in the local park around noon, there are a lot of moms there with there babies and it gives the dogs and parent/kids also some "special" time. Also, pampering your dogs with special treats/toys- my favorite is a filled kong which takes our dog a good amount of time to finish off. I always give my dogs there filled kongs when the kids get up in the morning so that they are preoccupied, while I get the kids dressed, fed etc.. Good Luck!