Sorry so long but my grandmother asked me for some help and i need advice. Its complicated
Okay my grandparents adopted a little Bichon/poodle mix about 3 months ago. They were told she was great with other dogs and had been around a lot of dogs. Well around our Poodle she is great but our mix she is awful so now my grandfather won't take her off the leash when we are over or anybody is over and she gets so aggressive. And its obvious the leash causes it. Normally off the leash she calms down after 10 minutes but now she doesn't calm down at all.
Well she wasn't spayed until right before they adopted her (she is 2 years old) so maybe that has something to do with it
Well my grandmother and I are both concerned because there dog Addie gets along great with our male poodle Zack (he is neutered) but whenever our female mix Sasha (spayed) even walks in the door Addie goes nuts.
Sasha is real submissive (even though she is the largest dog of the bunch, well except for my uncles Lab Lucy) and doesn't fight back.
So Sasha the whole time is trying to be friends and be nice to Addie and Addie is ready to kill her.
But Addie seems to be this way with any dog bigger than her. I and my grandmother believes she is a very leash reactive dog but my grandfather will not take her off the leash which we feel is best. He has his own way of doing things.
How can we convince him that the leash is making her more agressive? Also they are real upset over the fact that they were told she was great with other dogs and she isn't.
Do you think they just told them that at the shelter that she was good with other dogs to make her more adoptable?
Do shelters do things like that?
I don't know much about her past, but I know they need help to make sure she has a better future.
Also My husband, Zack, Sasha, and I are over there all the time so that is why its such an issue
Picture a toddler at the supermarket with his mother, they walk by a chocolate bar stand. The toddler got a chocolate bar the last time they were shopping so he wants another one. He tries to reach for one, but his mother grabs him, and pulls him away. The toddler wants it, the mother stops him from getting it, the toddler will not understand why his mother won't let him have it. So the fustration starts make him upset, he starts to cry, jump up and down, lay on the floor and scream.
The mind of a dog is much the same, but dogs never mentally develope past this stage, so our world can be very fustrating. We lock them in our house, so they bark out the window. We lock them up in the backyard, they bark at people and animals that walk by, some dogs even run up and down the yard. We keep them on leashes, and then we take them to explore the world, but we hold them back when someone new comes along (dog or person)
Fustration isa really big problem with our dogs, Because fustration turns into aggression eventually, if you can't have it, scare it away. MAke him understand if he keeps holding the dog back eventually he will become aggressive.Put muzzles on all the dogs if it makes you feel safer when they first meet, if he keeps the dog on the leash, fine, but no tension, keep the leash loose.
When I look up into the sky, I think to myself, Wheres the ceiling?
I have to ask - why do you keep bringing your dog Sasha to your grandfather's house if you know his dog is aggressive to her? If someone kept bringing a dog to my house that my dog did not get along with I would have to put a stop to it. I would not keep bringing my dog to someone's home if it upset the dog that lives there. It just aggravates the problem. Maybe your grandfather doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying something so he feels forced to keep his dog leashed.
Because he wants our other dog Zack there and we don't take one anywhere without the other. Sasha and Zack have been going over there forever and they just got this dog 3 months ago. He got his dog as a Zack replacement. (though we told him it wouldn't be Zack, but he didn't listen and now he is upset with her) We go over there all the time for Sunday brunch. Addie loves Zack (she met him alone big mistake) but sees Sasha as an intruder and I don't know why. I also have an uncle she met alone and she loves him but he can't bring my aunt around with him Addie goes nuts and tries to nip at her and growl. No one can even get near my grandmother without Addie going nuts. Its more than just Sasha that the problem is. Worse part is if Addie keeps this up we lose our babysitter. Addie loved me at first until she saw I had dogs. She is very jealous and possessive. They asked me shortly after they got her if they were to pass they asked my husband and I if we would take her but I'll be honest at this point we won't. We don't want an agressive dog in our home, especially one that will interfere with the dynamic our dogs have. And as stubborn as my grandfather is the issue will get worse before it gets better
It has to get better though becuase if the economy doesn't get better we may have to stay with them for awhile
What happens if you take all the dogs out on neutral ground, or have you done that? This dog sounds like a very dominant alpha female, and hence the reaction to your other female dog.I would seek the help of a good trainer, and also put Addie in obedience classes, if they will accept her. I agree with Sue...put a muzzle on her, and she really can't hurt the other dog, nor can she bite anyone. It's not the nicest thing to do, but when you adopt a dog with no knowledge of their history, and start running into aggression problems, I would definitely consider it. Good luck with her, and keep us posted!
They've never been in neutral territory. She doesn't leave the property much being that its not easy for my grandmother to get around and my grand dad doesn't wander too far from the house. My dogs were actually at their house when they brought her home. As far as exercise goes my grand dad takes her out back and plays ball with her and stuff
My grand dad won't take her to a trainer (and since they are living on social security they don't really have the extra money to do so.) (Our basic obedience class cost us 90 dollars) The problem with Addie is it isn't just our dogs that set her off its people too
If you can download some training tips, or perhaps buy your grandad a book with a training method called N.I.L.F,(nothing in life is free) perhaps that would be of some help. I would also suggest putting the dog in a crate when you're visiting,and give her a good meaty bone to work on. I would do this temporarily, until you can get some training in place for her. Just reinforce the fact to your Grandad that his dog is aggressive, and that something has to be done about it, before she really bites someone, or attacks another dog.
It sounds as if your grandfather is being unreasonable. He shouldn't be insisting on your dogs coming to visit, his dog being aggressive and leashed the whole time and expecting everyone to go along with it in spite of no hope for change in the future because he refuses to have the dog trained. It is just not fair to all concerned. Good luck with the situation and I hope it is resolved peacefully but personally, I'd refuse to bring my dogs unless some kind of concessions were made as to getting the dog some training or following some of the other suggestions offered on here. The way it is now the dogs are at great risk of getting in a real fight and at his age I don't know how good his grip on a leash is. If you move in with them I doubt he'll be able to have the dog on a leash 24/7. Keeping feuding dogs apart when they live in the same house is no picnic (personal experience).