Earlier this morning, I was passing by my husband's computer when I saw a tab on the internet that was for a Breeder. a Beagle Breeder. A breeder of normal and minature Beagle puppies. I clicked on it(Since he was out at the barn) and saw him looking at a litter of Chocolate Tri colored Mini Beagle puppies.
Its not that I'm upset. I ADORE Beagles. But he's going behind my back and maybe buying Beagle Puppies. I want to confront him but I'm not for sure what to say?
To confront someone is to take an adversarial, aggressive position in a situation. If you don't know that it was your husbands intention to buy a dog "behind your back" then a challenge is probably only going to result in an argument or fight. I don't know that simply bookmarking a page means that he intends to buy anything.
Perhaps a straightforward neutral question would be best. Ask him if he is thinking about buying a dog. Then discuss it.
You can't win if you don't play the game -- Me!
All cruelty stems from weakness -- Seneca
Sometimes a dog is as good as any man -- Bell/Houser
Actually, we just traveled into town(We are about 7.2 miles from Redding) to pick up so more Dog Food. There was a shelter at our local Petsmart and they had Beagle Puppies(About 6-7 months old) for adoption. So that's when I brought up the question: "Honey, earlier today, I saw a tab on the internet about a breeder with Beagle Puppies." Here was his response: "OH! I was going to talk to you about that. I really wanted a Beagle and found the cutest little Beagle pups for sale."
So I just kind of shrugged it off. But I did tell him to come to me first before even thinking about going behind my back.
If I saw that my hubby was looking at puppies on the internet I think the only thing I would say to him would be to let me check out the breeder before he made a commitment to anything or maybe try and talk him into adopting first. When it comes to animals my hubby has absolutely never said no to anything I have ever wanted(except for the llama and sheep idea I had)or brought home so I could never say no to him and I am such a sap for dogs I don't think I could say no anyway lol.
We thought about adopting those Beagle pups(We were in the car when we were thinking) but then the shelter came out to pack up and the puppies were gone(They were an out of city shelter. Traveled about 50 miles to stay from 8am to 4pm)
Well....my opinions usually start things, but sounds like you have a marriage issue, not a dog issue. sounds like you don't trust him, and he's not willing to discuss things with you first. And that is what we call circular reasoning. Kind of like which came first the chicken or the egg.......
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***Edited By: pyrmom on 8/23/2010 8:32:39 PM*** Reason: *
SBG - WOW, you have quite a set on ya' don't ya there girlie. There's giving advice and then there's what you do; which are two toally different things. You are a mean-spirited person. Perhaps you need a contingency plan for when you're life falls apart.....or has it already fallen apart and now you're just sharing your pain!?!?!
SBG you are wrong and you need to edit what you said before she sees it it is very unnecessary for you to say something like this it could be hurtful you need jesus in your life . Think before you write and say anything You need the holy spirit