I am a single mom 33. recenty divorced with a 5 year old son. I have a small dog and a cat. I recently went to the humane society and adopted a 6 year old yellow lab.
The story behind this is when i was married my ex husband gave our yellow lab away to the humane society because he said it was too much trouble. I wish then I would have put my foot down and told him no but i guess i was young and stupid.
I have never gotten over the fact that I felt that my first lab must have thought I abandoned him. He got adopted right away but i still felt sad very time i thought about him. I would look at dog website looking for him hoping I would find him. so i hadn't looked for a long time until this past week i looked at the humane society and low and behold there was murphy..
he looked exactly like my old dog. I went to look at him but someone had already put a hold on him but they told me i could put a second hold on him and if the 1st one fell through they would call me. As I was leaving the people who had the first hold where there so I pretty much thought i had no chance. but 1.5 hrs later they called me to tell me that it didn't work out with the first family and if i wanted murphy to bring my son and my little dog to see how they interacted. so we did and long story short here is murphy..
he is the most loveable dog and I now can have some closer and know that I did something good for another. I put a picture of the dog on facebook and no more than an hour later my mother sent me an email saying that she saw i got a dog and she wishes me luck but she knows that the dog is going to be nothing but trouble and cause a mess and she is no longer going to be my "maid" as she puts it .
She made me feel so bad and upset that she reacted this way. I am an adult and she is treating me like i am a child. My question is how do I deal with this..any feedback would be appreciated.
***Edited By: pyrmom on 12/28/2010 8:55:36 AM*** Reason: spacing
I can totally relate to how you feel. I've been out of my parent's house now for a lot of years and still they comment on how many animals I have or when I get another one. They have gotten better about it and now if I mention a name they haven't heard before they just shake their heads lol.
Tell your mom you will be able to deal with this new dog on your own. Then do it. Don't ask for her help just do whatever needs to be done. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. I don't mean to sound patronizing; but sometimes when it comes to parents, you have to accept that you will need a thick skin to be able to really "cut the apron strings". Don't let what your mom said bother you. What is your history like? Has she done a lot of 'cleanup' for you (referring to her comment about her being your maid)? If there is a history but want to prove that you can handle it, then you will have to do whatever it takes to care for this dog. Are you equipped to deal with 2 dogs and a cat? Why was the first lab a problem? Are you up to dealing with a dog who may have fear issues or whatever since some rescue dogs come from some undesirable homes. If you're up for it, then just do it and don't worry about your mom. Once she sees you're able to handle it, then she'll back off. Even if she doesn't, oh well, you'll have proven to yourself that you did it and it's you that counts.
In order to really enjoy a dog, one doesn't merely try to train him to be semi human. The point of it is to open oneself to the possibility of becoming partly a dog. ~Edward Hoagland
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