I hardly ever post, I mostly just read and I can't believe how vicious some people are. It thrills me to know that there are soooo many people who care soooo much about animals, but why do some people on this forum have to be so mean?
All types of people in the world. This is a nice safe way for you to see them, w/o getting any of their heat, if they have a temper. And some people are bluffing, joking, and carrying on because this is a nice safe way to do it. I personally, have a little fun w/ the bad tempered ones. Like teasing a dog through the fence, only I would be nicer to a mean dog than a mean person. Don't take it too personally. Most of these guys are hot air when it comes down to bickering.
I agree what Kittys mom said. I have gotten into a little debate here myself and wasn't surprised how some people have gotten worked up. I just sit back and laugh. I only participated in a few post, but most of my experiences are positives ones.
I have gotten into some that made me laugh so hard that tears were squeezing out, I went to work laughing, giggled all night, made incomprehensible excuses to coworkers about my behavior (they don't have pets, are Arabic, or Armenian, and think I'm nuts anyway), and came home that night, hoping to god I could still find someone here to play with.
Ever seen 2 dogs w/ a bone? Sometimes they make the most evil noises...all in fun. I usually start spouting silly things when people look like they might burst a tube and come unglued about a subject. Maybe that makes things worse, but at least they have someone new to get mad at. My skin is pretty thick though. I have worked in an Arabic bar/restuarant for 25 years.
I appreciate all of those thoughts. Most of the postings really are positive and kind. I'm an accountant for my fiance's manufacturing business so I don't get a lot of debating practice at work. I'm always being told to behave properly and stay low-key because of my link to the owners. I'd never make it as a telemarketer, let me tell ya!
I used to be on a debate team in high school. The only reason i did it was to get out of school. But most of teh time I was pretty good at it. One of my teachers used to think I would make a good lawyer, but instead I messed my life up and when I finally had it straightened out I got pregnant. But usually I will join some of the arguements but sometimes I seem to enjoy it too much. But I don't let it get to me because I always feel like I'm fighting with a wall.
Debates and being nasty are (or should be) two different things. I love a good debate, and won't hesitate to jump in there if it is about something that I am informed about so that I can make good points.If it is something that I feel strongly about, I like to think that maybe someone who was unsure of how they felt about the subject may see my views and my reasons for having them and decide to share those views. Such as on issues of breeding, pet stores, and adoption. I never do it in a nasty mean way because that does not help to get a point across, but rather causes people to completely disregard anything of substance that was said and get angry and defensive.
Sometimes our opinions alone, even stated politely, can hurt the feelings of others who may disagree. For example, if a very nice person who feels they are bettering the breed that they breed sees my views on breeding and finds that I don't agree with the way they do it, or the dogs they use. Now that is just part of having a strong view about something, both on my part and on the part of the breeder. This is just a part of life, and in most cases doesn't affect how I feel about the poster personally, and hopefully doesn't change how they feel about me personally either. I can't imagine that ALL PEOPLE will alway agree with everything I do or believe in.
Debates also make me learn. I may have to look up information to back up a point I am trying to make, or to rebut something someone else says. Sometimes, after hearing others' views and the facts they have to back them up and checking those facts, I might learn some things I didn't know and change my view. Polite debate causes us to use our brains. Jerry Springer bickering does not.
I have seen some nasty posts here, along with lots of good ones. If there's a point to the nasty post and it is one that I disagree with, or if I do agree with the point but not with the way it was presented, I will normally answer only to the point that was being made, ignoring any name calling-- but will only reply once to the rude person about the particular thing they were posting about.
WOW sorry , that was long! I Hope not too much bother reading :-)
***Edited By: shinyblackpit on 12/14/2004 10:59:52 PM*** Reason: GOD I TALK TOO MUCH
I am sooooooo passive about things. lol. I hate arguing. Mainly because I'm bad at it, and the times I have done it I feel so incredibly guilty afterwards. The only time I will debate is if I said something and it came across wrong, I will explain myself. It's more to say, 'oh, I meant...'. When people really argue on here I usually ignore it or post some sort of hippie thread asking everyone to sing kum bi ya and get along. hehe :)
Pearl...and Cricket, the goat thing became a joke because I'm all into astrology, and I started poking at birthdays that way. I am a horse (centaur), born in the year of the pig, if anyone wants to take a shot.
I have a ton of respect for shiny and that WHOLE post was the reason lol. In all the time I've known her on forums, she's always been respectful and nice in her posts, never rude. Sometimes its not worth it to argue and some people just argue for the sake of arguing.
Kitty, the goat thing did not bother me at all. I knew you were refering to Capricorn. It is very rare for Pearl and I to say anything serious to each other. I find nothing wrong with that. Humor is a very important part of life as far as I am concerned. If you loose that, you are in trouble.