I just found out that the 14 year old shiba that my sister had that I rescued was taken to the spca last year. My sister didn't have the kahonas to take the poor old girl to the vet and have her put to sleep herself so she dropped her off at the SPCA. Now I know Kiesha had some health issues, and I was fine when I though that she was put to sleep becasue her back really was sore, but instead my cow of a sister took her to the SPCA, and do you know why, not because pf her back and pain issues, because my sister couldn't handle the hair, WTF. She had the dog for 6 years and supposedly loved her, ya well what ever, she had better not ever mention to me she is getting a puppy ever again because I will lose it on her stupid head.
Of the top of my head that makes the american eskimo, she didn't even name, Copper, Baby, both mutts from the same litter, Sammy the samoyed, Barney the Bassett Hound, and Kiesha the Shiba-Inu that she has gotten rid of when they became an inconvience, and who know how many cats as well. And when Ruffian had her last pup in 1998 she had the nerve to ask of it, well heaven help her if she ever asks me for a pup from one of my dogs, I will go balistic on her. I can't even believe that we are related, I am crying so bad for poor Kiesha, I would have payed for a plane flight for her even if I was just going to take her to the vet and put her to sleep.
That is it I am done with my sister and her family I will not have anything to do with any of them ever again. I know when I get my Afghan Hound if I ever do breed her she will ask for a pup becasue that was the dog she always wanted, she can go to hell if she thinks for 1 minute she will ever get another thing from me, that includes a phone call.
Sorry I had to rant and no one her would have quite understood just how sad and upset I am at her, I am done I don't have a sister anymore, she is out of my life forever. I can't believe that soemone who claims to listen to the teaching of "god" could be so heartless.
And you have no idea how hard it was to type this without swearing.
Hello ruffian, you did really good not swearing, because it doesn't make matters better anyways. But you said it lound and clear. I know exactly what you mean. I have a sister, she has three kids. My other sister and I went to get two puppies, one for me and one for her my sister Samina. Well Samina didn't really have a place to stay were she could take her puppy with her, so she poor Maiya to my sister who has three kids, Sabina's attention. Not even 2 days left there, my sister Samina went to see how her puppy was doing and found her really scared and tied up to the nubb of the door on the outside, a short cord, not even a long one, she couldn't move an inch if she wanted too. My sister was really up set with her and just brough her dog to me, and now I'm stuck with Maiya, but I don't mind because now I moved into a house, and she, Maiya is spoiled with me. I just hated when people are so crule and don't even ask for help, it doesn't hurt them to ask for help, all they have to do is pick up the phone and start talking, how much can that hurt. Anyways, thank God, Sabina didn't have Maiya for to long, because I would have gone there my self and stranggle the living divel out of her. Anyways, I just say to my self if I even find out she has a pet, I will call the pet authorities and report her abusing the dog, because she did to Maiya. Well, she also spanked Maiya a few times because she urinated on the floor in side the house, but that is dogs until you train them, but some poeple just don't understand, and therefore should be prohited of having dogs. So I'll keep my eye out on her, just one move she makes of getting a pet, I'll call the authories, pet police so they can pay her a visit and scare the heck out of her.
That's just it the rest of my family is really good with pets, or they have the sence not to get them. My uncle and aunt have 3 dogs a scotty pup and 2 boxers and their old dog just died. That is why they have the pup, Cheek, who incidently was the American Eskimo my sister had, just died a year ago and was 14, and Jc was a poodle cross that died at 13 in march or april. Their 2 boxers are a mother daughter pai that are 12 and 9 years old. My dad has a Shiba-Inu as well and he is my little brother they treat him so good. I just dont understand how someone could be like this and be related to my family. Oh well she lives across the province and I dont have to see her.
I'm with rednose...I realize that your upset and very disappointed in your sisters choice, but she's your sister...your flesh and blood. Do you really want to stop talking to her over this. Maybe you should have a long heart to heart with her about how she cares for animals and so forth.
I have tried to have the heart to heart, when hshe got the samoyed and when she got the Bassett Hound, that is why i hardly talk to her as it is, we talk like 3 times a year as it is, really no big whole in my life without those little preachings anyway. My sister has to tell me how I am going to hell because I don't have god in my heart, and how good her preacher is, and how good she is at absolutly everything she does, ah really no big loss.
I feel bad for you that you're so angry .Believe me when I say it's not healthy.
In my life I missed out on having sisters because my family is so disfunctional. Believe me when I say I would give anything to have that loss in my life back My one step sister who lives up the road from me ,we don't even speak ,and I wish to god we did . Don't let happen between you and your sister. One day I thought was Renee is Stewarts ,but wasn't sure because I hadn't spoken to her in 18 years after my step mom jumped off of a bridge and killed her self. Paula and Renee blamed my dad ,then stopped talking to me and my dad and my other half sister Darlene. This is family which I no longer have .Once it gets too far out of control ,it gets harder to reverse.
You guys are right in saying your family is family, flesh and blood. But it's not always fixable, and I am sure Ruffian is not just upset with her sister for the dog issues, it could have been her whole life for all we know, different things.
Flesh and blood, doesn't mean a thing. I have better friends than certain family members, who've completely dettached themselves from our family.
Rednosered, I truly am sorry for your sisters. It's horrible, and I understand it. But some people don't need to work things out, they follow their heart and head, and just don't have anything to do with them. Ruffian is one of those people, why should she have to deal with her sister.
I'm sorry but I'm disagreeing, you live your life the way you want to live it. You can't always forgive people, and forget. Ruffian's sister is disfunctional, and they don't click. Why force yourself to get along with somebody you know you don't? I'm sure Ruffian loves her sister, but she doesn't like her right now and she is entitled to that.
Like I said before, there are sometimes better friends out there than family members. Flesh and blood, doesn't mean a thing..
For example some people go through their whole lives never knowing their biological father, because they walked out on them at a young age. Then the mothers may remarry a man who becomes the best father to that kid, it doesn't always matter in terms of flesh and blood. It's the people who matter, and who remain close to your heart. You can't force family relationships.
this wasn't his fault. the girl he met split when she found out she was pregnant. married his best friend ,and would never let him see his daughter, it's now 23 years later and hopefully jeniffer will want to meet him if claudia decides to tell her who her dad is.my hubby thinks about her everday.my son has a half sister he deserves to meet.
"For example some people go through their whole lives never knowing their biological father, because they walked out on them at a young age. Then the mothers may remarry a man who becomes the best father to that kid, it doesn't always matter in terms of flesh and blood. It's the people who matter, and who remain close to your heart. You can't force family relationships."
This is a really good example. My daughter is 3 and dh is not her "biological dad". Her biological father is the most worthless thing on earth. And I am not saying this because of what happened between us. He is. He can't hold a job for longer than a month. He moves houses like I change my underwear. He only calls to see her when he feels like it. And from the day she was born until she was 2 he only saw her 3 times. After he heard I was getting married he all of a sudden decided it was convenient to see her. Now she is almost 4 and he has seen her about a total of 3 weeks in the past 2 years. She calls DH "Daddy" and calls her "biological dad" by his name. --------------------------------------------------------------
If your sister really thinks she is following god, maybe she actually belives that dropping the dog off at the spca was the most honest decision she could make. Who knows. But to know that this is a dog that you yourself cared for and she disregarded it like that. Makes you wonder about her mental capabilities. (Not saying she is insane, but something isn't right)
I too would be so mad at my sister and not want to speak to her again.
You know how they say every family has a "black sheep" in it? Well, you get my point. My moms side of the family has one, her brother. He don't talk to anyone and is such an idiot. My dads side of the family would be his sister. She has never married, dates losers that steal from her and still borrows money from her mom and dad (and she is about 57!!!) I would say I am the one in my family. Because my brother acts "perfect" and I was such a wild child, got pregnant when I was a senior in high school. But now my life is on track and woudn't have it any other way!
Scenicvale, Wow I had no idea your daughter went through that but it's not uncommon these days. The amount of assholes (sorry*) who are out there. Does he at least pay child support to her.
My father doesn't pay for me anymore, and makes up lame excuses, its funny, we used to be closer than close. Then I moved to New York and he pays NOTHING for me and my brother. My mom's going to social services, she feels like there's nothing else in her power she can do.
Does your child's father pay anything, or do you feel he doesn't even need to because your doing fine?
I had a similar situation. My sister (who isadmittedly a little nuts) had a cat. I remember her BABYING this cat, worse than anyone can even imagine. When my sister was around 18 she even told my mom that she didnt know whos life she would choose to save if she had to save someone... the cat or our mom. Anyway, about a year later she got pregnant and had a real baby. The cat took a backseat and NEVER got attention, fed etc.. it was locked in the basement. After a few months she put it to sleep. I had seen the cat a week before and told her I'd love to take it off of her hands. It was a great cat and really healthy. :-/ But no point in breaking ties with her, she is nuts and thats al lthere is too it. Besides the cat was already dead when i found out. But now, she is doing something similar to a dog. Why did she get the dog!!! She ties it to the backdoor on a leash shorter than many people would use to walk their pet. :-/ of cource she has never listened to reason, so there is little point talking about it.
Just wanted you to know that your not alone in this.
Domihop , to prevent the dog from living an awful life , why not call the SPCA or take the dog from her yourself. I know you don't want to turn against your family, but how can you sleep at night knowing the dog is having a bad life and not being properly socialized. Get the dog out of that situation before it is too late.