My son is 11 years old and his school is having a fall dance I have said he could attend but the dance is not over until 10pm which I feel is a little late for an 11 year old boy. I will be picking him up and taking him to the dance. but I have told him 9:30 no later so do you think IM being a stick in the mud since the dance is being held at the school? Also at such a young age should this be considered a date since he is going with a "Girl Friend"? And if it's considered a date do I purchase his friends ticket? Can you tell this all new to me?...LOL Why couldn't he just stay a baby!!
Awww.... welcome to the joy of raising a preteen :D Our school dances are from 7-10 on Fri. nights, and some dances are from 5-8 grades (which I think is wrong, but stupid cheerleading just wants to make more money. Our organization, not for cheerleading or sports, does 7-8 or 5-6. At 5-6 I hope to chaperone :D How fun, eh?), and our admission is $5. Even if he is going with his "girl friend," don't worry, she'll pay for it :) Just make sure to ask him how it goes. I know he will say "I had fun & stuff." If you raised him right (and I expect that you did), he should treat his friend good & not do anything stupid. Edit: Oh! And don't expect him to tell you if he slowdanced or not, lol. At dances, I love to dance. But a guy asked me to slow dance with him, & I said no. I will always say no. Boys around here are complete morons, lol. ---Allie the Chihuahua http://www.dogster.com/?41063 ---Mönica the Kitty http://www.catster.com/?57596
"they will have plenty of chaperones" Allie it's funny you should mention that...LOL I am on the school board this year and I just learned the other day that members act as chaperones at the school dances. Luckily for my son there were enough volunteers so there is no need for me to attend. Wouldn't that just kill him!
I say as long as you are dropping him off and picking him up that it would be fine. I have a 10 1/2 yr old boy myself and while I am pretty overprotective I would let him go. When I was young we used to go to the skating rink all the time till 10 and sometimes they had overnighters which my parents let us go to and we walked ourselves! SOOOOO, LOL I say let him go, Also, it would really be nice if you bought the ticket but I don't think it's necessary and make sure she hasn't bought one already. Nikki oh yeah and when I said go I meant the whole time till 10pm ;)
I have a 13 year old daughter and we have done the middle school dances for a while now...We as parents just skulk in the parking lot...they would just die if a parent approached them...I let my child go to all the dances and school stuff she wants...that is as long as she acts right...and keeps up her responsabilities at home...which...she is pretty good...and usually does, more or less...lol...I vote let him go...and ask him to find out if he is buying her ticket or not...
I was not going to sign back in tonight but......you need help. If you want your son not to be considered a nerd as much as you hate the hour he has to stay until the end. Yes, I know it is hard. My son is 10 and will be going through this next year. But, my friend has a child in grd. 8 and last year the kids that had to go home early were considered a nerd. Also what she did was call the other girls moms and they all got a feel of what was appropriate, and what they were allowing and you will feel better because I bet you 80% of the moms going through this the first time have no clue either. and while we are on the topic of being off topic how come your parent members get to chaparone? we are not allowed and we've been on the council since j.k and now my son is in grd 5 (not fair) P.s. not mad at you lol
i don't think 10 is too late. he is going to be at a school function and well supervised. not like he is walking the streets at that time with his friends. i don't know about buying the girls ticket. i don't think at 11 they are really dating. i don't know. things have changed alot since i was 11. i had my first "boyfriend" in 6th grade. but it wasn't like real boyfriend and girlfriend stuff back then.
You're right, Scout. They THINK it is a long-term relationship, but long-term to them is 2 months, lol. That is why I don't have a boyfriend. They're all morons here. ---Allie the Chihuahua http://www.dogster.com/?41063 ---Mönica the Kitty http://www.catster.com/?57596
Having two sons of my own, 19 and 16, I vote yes let him stay until 10. I also say if he is considering it a date, you should too. Maybe he could buy his date a corsage. It's hard to let go but we have to sooner or later. Start slowly, like situations like this. Believe me, you will always be his first girl!!!!!!!! My 16 year old has a girlfriend for the first time. He is still my baby and we are as close as ever. She is a real sweetie and for the first time I feel like I have a daughter. Someone to yack with and shop with and just talk girly stuff. It is fun. Look for the good stuff. Your little boy is starting to become a teenager and soon enough a young man.
Most schools have the strict policy of "once you're in, you stay, you don't leave until a parent or guardian picks you up". Since they're not mobile without parental transport, I agree, let him stay until the end. It's hard eenough to be a kid without standing out and feeling "different". Good luck, you're off and running now and won't have a chance to catch your breath until he turns at least 30!
Having an 11 year old myself, his first year in middle school I know how you feel, really. but even though it's late I would let him stay for all the reasons everyone has already said. I also vote that you buy her ticket if he is considering it a date. The only thing I wonder about is why the school would have it on a weekday instead of a Friday night. Oh well, the schools make me wonder about a lot of things. My daughter on the other hand is a senior in high school and always goes to the dances with a big group of friends. I must say I like that better, but never sleep until she is in the door. A few weeks ago I had the flu and went to bed early, my husband was up, and she came home and freaked out since I wasn't up waiting for her. She came running to my room and woke me up to see if I was ok. LOL I was until she woke me up!
Gina my sons are a lot older now, but I still remember that know you get in your stomach. If you do not loosen up on the reins a little you will never know if they were listening, and can fly solo. It is every parents dream and nightmare rolled into one.
I have an almost 6 yr. old daughter so I'm going to say what I would do if she were in this situation. If it were on the weekend where there was no school the next day I would let her stay until 10. I would probably let her stay until 10 even if it were on a school night just because I wouldn't want her to feel like a loser. I would give her money to pay for everything but I think it would be nice if her "date" at least offered. I'm not saying I think she should let him I just think an offer would be nice. I think maybe you should give your son enough money to offer but definitely let him stay until 10.
I don't think 10 is too late either. I would think it was late if he was out with friends or something, but he will be in safe environment with adults supervising. When I was in middle school, our town rec center had this free program for kids just in the summer where you could do whatever you wanted at the rec center after hours until 12! So from 9 to 12, only kids 10 to 15 were allowed, no adults (except the employees of course) and they would not even let you out the door unless your mom/dad was there and verified with drivers license that she/he was who they said they was. I thought it was neat, because it discouraged kids from wanting to be out late possibly in dangerous areas, and the parents knew where their kids were. We used to have so much fun. :) I think dances are a good idea. Better a kid want to go to a dance rather than be out with friends egging houses or something.
if it were my kid asking, i'd let him go. its a good way for him to show responsibility, and also there will be chaperones (sp) so its not like he'd be w/o any adults. and you said he could stay till 9:30....whats another half hour? and besides it might be embarrasing if you pick him up earlier than all his friends!