After a 'not-so-nice' phone call, he has decided to drive down today and bring the puppy so that we can see it while my son is in school. Yes, he will then turn around and drive back to VA. He normally does this anyway when he comes to get our son once a month. It's about a 6 hr. drive - one way. I suppose I will be making a decision around noon today. PLEASE offer any suggestions you may have and I 'thank you' to the others who have offered their advice already. My mind is a whirlwind.
I expressed my disappointment in him for pulling this stunt and explained to him that he is not just dealing with a stuffed animal here. He is dealing with a live animal and a child who, I don't think, is ready for a pet yet.
He says he called the people where he got the puppy from and they said it was a black lab / siberian husky mix. I have NO IDEA where he got a Boxer / Mix from - like I said, he isn't the brightest bulb in the box.
Although I love labs, I owned a Siberian Husky once that I simply could not stand. He was a roamer, and I've read they are prone to roaming. I also read that they are not very much of a 'people' dog meaning that they don't take to their owners very well because of their independance to roam. My dog fit that description to a " T ".
Maybe a husky owner will come along and clarify if what I read was true. Also, does anyone have any photos of a lab/husky mix?
I will add my two cents, and remember that is all it is worth. I am not sure the breed matters as much as adding another dog to the problems you are already having. I just wouldn't accept the dog. In fact would call him back and tell him not to bring it, because once you see the dog you may make a decision based on emotions that will will regret later. Besides that, didn't your son want a Boxer?
***Edited By: cricketmom on 12/17/2004 8:32:50 AM*** Reason: cuz
Do you think you can handle another dog with the other problems you're having with Piper? If you feel like adding another dog in the mix would just be too much, then don't do it. Also, do you think adding a puppy into the home would upset everything you're trying to do with Piper? You don't want to put him back to square one.
Go with your gut, it is YOUR decision, no one else's. Good luck!
Maybe see what Piper's reaction will be. Has Piper been exposed to any other dogs, ever? (besides his companion) I'm just not sure if having the pup around would be good for Piper or the opposite. At least your ex is willing to let you take a look and make the final decision, not that that's much of a defense.
You know, if I was you I would be so angry at your ex (which I'm sure you are). He is putting you in such a bad position, it's like you have to either take the dog, even if you don't want it, or don't take it and know that he is just going to drop it somewhere. Most dog owners couldn't stand the thought of a puppy getting dropped somewhere. So you're stuck, you're put on the spot. I don't envy your position. I wish your ex had more sense and compassion and would take the puppy to a shelter. If you don't think he will, could you take the puppy and ask your husband to take it to a shelter if it will be too hard for you?
***Edited By: schnauzerluv on 12/17/2004 8:39:38 AM*** Reason: .
I don't know what else to say. I had a husky once. He didn't roam though I have read that also, he also was fine with my other dogs, but they weren't fine with him. I ended up having to rehome him. He wasn't safe in the house and cried in his crate all the time. Now, if it helps any, I took this dog from someone I worked with who had just left him in their back yard and never played with him. They had no business having a dog anyway. For some reason it was my dogs who didn't like him.
That said, I just throw up my hands at your situation. I understand the position you are in and only you can make this final decsion. I honestly don't know what I would do. Remember you do have the option of taking it to a shelter as hard as that may be, it's better than having it dropped off.
You never said, does your son already know? I'm just floored at this guy. To do something so stupid and then turn around and drive it that far so you can see it. I understand when you say no common sense here.
I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do. Please keep us posted.
I still go back to my original advice...if Dad wants his son to have a god, more power to him, but the dog will be at DAD'S house. You've said more than once that you don't think your son is ready for a dog, which means that this is a gift to YOU, one which you do not want. No idea WHAT the dog is or where he came from...not in my house. Pair that with all you're going through with Piper's behavior and Percy's death and I think it's just a bad situation. Dad made a big mistake and HE needs to figure out how to deal with it. Best of luck, girl....It sound like you have a tough day ahead of you and I don't envy your situation. Keep us updated, we're all thinking about you!
i second moen. let the dog live with dad since he thinks its such a good idea. then have a talk with him about buying a childs love. it doesnt work. if that is what he is trying to do. or is he just a moron? :)
All practical common sense aside, You and I and everybody else knows that when you all see that puppy you are going to throw common sense to the wind. My friend has 2 Huskies and thinks they are the best dogs she ever had. Its too late to turn him away with the dog, that discussion should have happened days ago. But it didn't, he's on the way and you are going to end up keeping the puppy, so try to look at the bright side. Maybe Piper will enjoy him and bring him out of his shell. Maybe he'll turn out to be a good dog. What will your ex do with the dog anyway? It's probably better off with you than him. Just resolve to be more in charge, next time.
My husky is a sweetheart, but definately a roamer. SHe is an angel indoors but outside there isn't really any telling what she'll do.http://www.dogster.com/?23131 They were bred to be independent so I guess it isn't their fault that they ignore you. It was a horrible time with potty training and I almost have to say she grew out of it. She is really attached to my brother -I'm not sure if they usually attach to one person-but she is nice to everyone.The only thing is she really does like being outside and it sucks to walk her up here when it is 25 degres out. THey also can dig out of any fence made. A chain out is the only thing that works for her(she went through a couple runners, ran 8 miles down the road). You have to be carefull if you let them up on the couch because they may dig on there too. That is usually the reason they go to rescue. I know mine couldn't stand dog beds and eats any one in her site.They really are sweet dogs and since its a mix maybe the bad things will be bred out.
I reread this and it kind of makes huskies sound horrible! I'm sure you'll see it and fall in love so just enjoy it!
speaking for myself only.......if i had a dog with the problems piper is having, now would not be the time to introduce another dog into the family. HOWEVER, if there was even the SLIGHTEST chance that your ex would dump this innocent puppy at the side of a road on his way back home, then there would be no question in my mind that i would take this puppy from him. even if he did not dump it, and decided to keep it for himself, the little you have said about him would be enough for me to keep this puppy far away from the man. just my 2 cents.
Ansy, Siberian huskies - As a pet, huskies can be hard to keep contained; they often try any way possible to escape the yard. They like to roam; most DO NOT have the instinct to just stay home. Off leash, they will pay attention to whatever they have the most interest in, which usually isn't you. Very few people find out that they can actually let their husky off-leash and have it come back the second they call for it. They can be taught to live indoors (although they MUST be given outdoor exercise), but they can become extremely destructive indoors if they get too bored. For people willing to put up with the troubles presented by a husky, they can be excellent pets. Many people just LOVE their independent will and extraordinary intelligence. Labs-are the exact opposite. These dogs can be easy to train for life both inside and outside "use." They will depend on their owners for guidance and love doing whatever pleases you. Like the Siberian husky, they are high energy and need exercise to keep them from becoming bored and destructive. Labradors are one of America's most popular dogs because when bred correctly, they can make excellent pets for a variety of lifestyles.
Ansy, with this dog you are looking at two extremes. On the one end, a dog that will enjoy doing whatever it pleases and who delights in escaping and roaming the neighborhood in search of more interesting things to do, and on the other end, a dog that thrives on seeing you happy and would do fine just to stick by your side 24/7. Your dog could be anywhere between these two extremes. It is almost guaranteed however that he will be quite energetic, putting your house at risk if he ever gets too bored ;)