Ok my husband said "no more dogs." It's very hard for me to agree. I love dogs and the more the merrier. I take very good care of mine. They are well fed and groomed. I do most of the grooming and feeding. Someone is giving away a dog that is my most favorite breed in the world. This dog is really expensive and I have never seen one at the pound. He needs a new home. He doesn't shed but needs grooming and I don't mind grooming him myself. I have my own clippers. Anyway, how can I convince this man to let me have him? I know he says "no" but if I brought one home he would love the dog. I am just upset, worried, anxious and everything else. How many dogs is too many dogs anyway?
I only have 2 that are really mine but someone kinda dumped one dog on me then another. So really we have 4. I am not expecting the person to come back even though they said they would. I have 2 bid and 2 small dogs. The 2 small dogs don't shed and very low maintenance. They just sit on the couch all day and go outside twice a day.
This is JMO but I would wait on another dog till hubby was ready for another. Even if that meant years. Bring the subject up every so often and gage his response. My hubby says if he can see its something I really want then he will agree to it. But its not often that it happens the first around. Usually takes a few times around.
I am sorry it was not the answer you were looking for. I firmly believe that a marriage is a 50/50 thing. Would you want to get a dog that your husband will always resent? Would you want to get an animal that your husband never really likes because he never wanted it around. Marriage is hard and it an equal paternership. Sometimes we all have to sacrifice.
ETA: hte hubby has plenty of things around the house that I think was silly for him to get. But none of it is as important as a life. The new tool box he got is another living breathing animal.
***Edited By: Rebel on 2/5/2006 5:45:04 PM*** Reason: 000
I agree with rebel. I think that it should be a mutual decision between the both of you. But you will do as you like. I'm not much of a cat person, so I know I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend decided to get a cat without me agreeing to it first. But that's just my opinion, hope things work out for ya!
Don't get me wrong. I appreciate the honest replies. I asked for your opinions because I wanted to hear them. I am not mad. I wouldn't have asked for an unbiased opinion if I didn't want to hear it. However, it wouldn't have hurt if you all agreed with me. LOL
I have to vote with the previous two -- I would advise against getting the dog. He might be saying he doesn't want the dog (even though he loves dogs) for another reason entirely. Are you using the dogs to insulate yourself from him? That might sound wacky, but reflect on it. Keeping score ("I let him get that, so I should be able to get this") is a warning sign! Good luck!
We don't keep score but it sounds like a good idea. LOL I always put everybody first. He would not resent the dog and he wouldn't be terribly upset. I think he loves dogs more than I do. He is just being realistic. He said we might have to move around a lot and it's hard enough with 2 big dogs. One more to the mix won't help matters.
What you want people to lie tp you? Yes this is a pet forum but what do you expect of people. i personally think its a very bad idea to disregard what your hubby says and do want you want anyways. Especailly in the case when another living breathing animal is involved.
Rebel I was joking. I came here for honest answers. I knew deep down I shouldn't do it. I know my husband would be OK with it but not overly happy. He is a good person and he would never mistreat a dog. He would love him the same as the others. He wouldn't be able to help himself. He knows dogs have feelings and he would not want to break the dog's spirit. It doesn't matter anyway because I told the lady I couldn't take the dog. I know my husband would learn to live with the extra dog but I know he would be worried about moving. I don't want him to get an ulcer so I decided against it. I guess I knew I shouldn't get the dog but felt I had to share my frustration.
While it does sound like you could give the dog a great home, you do have to consider your husband's feelings. I would honestly sit him down and tell him very calmly your point of view. But you have to think that another dog without consulting him could put a strain on your marriage and some resentment towards you and even towards the new dog. It is not the dogs fault of course. But you do need to make sure that you can provide for your current family. Maybe show your husband the picture. But if it would put a strain in your marriage it is probably not ment to be. I would not do anything that could endanger that relationship. I would consider his feelings, he might have a good reason for saying it. Good luck either way!
We are thinking of moving and we might not be able to purchase a home right away. He is afraid that with so many dogs no one would rent to us. Believe me I showed him the picture. He would not budge. LOL