Back in September, or maybe even sooner, someone in my neighborhood lost their dog. They put up signs all around the neighborhood saying: "Lost White Dog She is Blind" and their phone number. Apparently, no one replied.
Now, where I live, we own the land all the way to our curb, as well as the street in front of our house. No one has a sidewalk, so everyone's yard is landscaped all the way to the curb. And almost every corner that I can think of, where there would be a street sign, is surrounded by flowers. So, this person would have to step in people's flowers to hang their signs.
After several weeks with the signs still hanging, people began to take the signs in their yards down. As soon as they would do so, these people would hang a new one up in their yard. Then they started putting more signs up offering a reward.
I don't want to sound stuck up, but we do live in a nice neighborhood, and, with the exception of The Trash Family across the street, every one takes pride in what their yards look like. The people that lost their dog are trespassing on private property to hang up the crappiest looking signs...like signs made of dirty, greasy pizza boxes, or torn up pieces of a box. It looks like trash hanging from the street sign. They also use duct tape, which does not come off the sign poles easily. They have even gone so far as to hang one of their pizza box signs over one family's Christmas decorations.
I am not discounting this family's loss at all. However, we live in an area, I guess you could consider it a canyon, that is habitat to coyotes, an occassional mountain lion and predatory birds. The coyote recently had puppies, so you can bet she's out looking for food. As I'm sure many of you have noticed, my family has lost quite a few animals to coyotes, mountain lions, snakes or birds (a dog, several cats, a duck, etc). We lost a Yorkie that could run like the wind to a coyote. This lost dog is blind! I'm sorry, but the dog was dinner to some coyote pups. I do sympathize with the family that lost their dog, as I do know that its tough. I HEARD my favorite cat being eaten alive by a pack of coyotes. I commend their persistence, but after at least three months, I think they should move on.
If they are so concerned with the return of their dog, there are classier ways of communicating to the neighbors that you are looking for her. At the very least, put up nicer signs, at least use clean cardboard! Go door to door asking neighbors if they have seen the dog. Or put flyers in mailboxes with a picture...I don't even know what to look for. What does a blind white dog look like? It could be a Maltese, a Poodle, a Bichon, a Lhasa, a Pyr, Lab or a mutt.
Just yesterday, I was thinking how rude it was of these people to not take their signs down. Some are falling off the poles, and now just look even more like trash. So as I took the trash out today, I noticed the one in our yard and was contemplating taking it down. However, I'm afraid of Black Widows and didn't want to walk in the plants to get to the sign. I then left to go to the ER for an accident, well a couple of accidents, I had last night. As I drove past the other corner of our yard, which never had a sign, there's a new pizza box duct taped to the pole.
I'm normally a nice person, but I do get a mean streak in me once in a while. I'm so irritated by these people, it's like they're trying to punish the neighborhood because we all haven't found their dog. I'm so tempted to call the number and just tell them, "Look, your dog's dead, now come take your pizza boxes down!" I know I would never do that, honestly, but I'm just irritated.
I'm sorry for my long rant. I'm just venting. But, does anyone else think this is rude? Or am I just being a grump? Feel free to be honest!
heather, you do have the right to not have signs put up on your property, BUT, have you ever said anything to the people about not putting them there? by not saying anything to them, they are thinking that you dont mind. they are already desperately looking for their beloved pet, and probably not realizing that they are annoying anyone in doing that. i myself wouldnt care because of the cause. now i would be right outside ripping out any election signs someone would put up without asking, but a lost pet sign could stay. i'm sure those people are under alot of stress . if letting them put signs up helps them feel like they are doing all they can to find their pet, then whats the harm in it.
I agree that the pizza boxes are nasty, and tromping peoples' flowers is rude. BUT, you have to feel for the poor people who just lost their dog. I know if I lost one of my dogs, I wouldn't think twice about what people thought of my signs, etc. As much as I love flowers, I also wouldn't care about flowers over my babies.
Maybe you can compromise to make everyone happy --why don't you print out some attractive-looking flyers on normal computer paper and offer these to the people as a better, more organized way of finding their pet. That way, the neighborhood would be "presentable" and the people could keep up the hope of finding their dog.
Sure, the dog is more than likely dead, but it would be the rudest action of all to tell them so and to suggest they give up hope. That would be especially cruel to do that during the holidays.
massive grump! i applaud them 4 caring about their dog. given that they have lost a family member, a few suspended skanky pizza boxes its not that much of a problem is it? its xmas for christs sake. give them a break mate.
As much as I want to say that you are right to be irritated,I can't.
I would suggest calling them,and doing as someone else mentioned,offering your help and assistance to them with signs.
See,when Mandy came up missing,I printed out pictures of her,in 5X7's and 8X10's,wrote on them that she is our therapy cat and family baby,and offered a reward for her return. I didn't say "safe",or "alive",because we too have coyotes and VERY large,aggressive dogs in our neighborhood that absolutely HATE cats. My concern was finding her alive,but even if that wasn't possible,I wanted to know if she had in fact been killed....either way,I wanted to KNOW what happened or where my baby was.
The only differences that I see between this family and mine?? I stopped by each neighbors house and showed them her picture on my printed paper,gave the ones that wanted/would take a flyer of her to them,asked the local stores and shops if I could hang them in their windows...I used scotch tape(clear,of course,but this was on the inside windows,so it would stay,unlike an outside pole that this other family are having to use).
If the only opportunity I had was to post signs,using duct tape,and pieces of boxes,you bet your behind I would have used them.
Sorry for such inconvienance for your family,but the other family just doesn't seem to want to give up hope......neither did I!
It was right at (4)FOUR WEEKS before Mandy came back home. She never roams. She has never left like that.....but the pet psychic I called that had helped my friend find the people who stole her dog,helped me to find out that Mandy didn't just run off,she was trapped somewhere(won't give specifics)unintentionally by an elderly woman in my neighborhood.
Point being,Mandy came home,she survived,and with being a de-clawed cat,and an inside cat at that. So,don't expect the other family to give up. They may have "back woods" ways about them with their use of boxes for signs(Don't dare speak about Rednecks,cause I'm Southern! LOL!),they must LOVE their pet more than anything to keep looking for this long.
Another idea - why don't you use TP to help them? It would be very nice of you to speak with them and get all the dog's info and post it here under the "Missing Dogs" section. I would get in the holiday spirit and do all you can to HELP these people.
Think of how you would feel if your baby was missing...
Technically, while the traffic signs and telephone poles may be ON your property, they don't belong to you. They belong to the city, township, whatever. Legally you have no say on who puts stuff on them.
It would have been nice if these people who lost their dog asked for permission prior to putting up signs on somebody elseís property, but some people loose consideration for others when they grieve.
The last thing I would do is call them and tell them donít put signs on my property. I agree that it is kind of rude to just invade somebodyís property without asking, but considering the cause I would let it go.
As somebody else suggested if the signs are too ugly make one up yourself where it would fit with the decoration of your yard, and maybe other neighboors will follow your example.
Of course it would have been nice if they had asked to go on your property & put up the signs. I would tell them how you feel about the signs AND offer to help them put up better looking ones, perhaps with a picture. I live in a nice neighborhood & the yards are impeccible, & we have folks putting up signs (not on pizza boxes, though) on poles, etc.
Heather, I think you're right to be irriated, I would be too. It's INCREDIBLY RUDE to put a sign, no matter what the sign, over someones christmas decorations.
About all the sugestions you made about the signs (putting them in the mail boxes and going door to door etc:..) why don't you mention that to them instead of having a personal fit that they'll never know about?
You could write them a letter and put it in their mail box if you don't want to call them or talk to them face to face about it.
I understand that they want their dog back and miss it, but they don't have to deface everyone elses property to try and find it.
putting signs in the mailboxes is a better idea anyway, because then everyone sees it, somepeople don't pay much attention to signs that are hanging on poles like that. Look at how many people run stop signs everyday.
Some of you have some very good ideas to help the grieving pet owners. But I have to be real and take Heather's side on this one. C'mon, like it or not a blind domesticated animal in Coyote Canyon has about the same chances as a snowflake in hell. If someone in the neighborhood took the dog in it sounds like they should know who the dog belongs to. I say change the signs to rest in peace and move on.
Heather, I do not think you are a grump. Also, I really enjoyed the way you wrote your "rant." It was literate, informative, and well-reasoned.
I do think that offering to help the people before asking them to take the tacky signs down would be a good idea. Is there a grocery store, hardware store, or discount store nearby where they could post a photograph of the dog? Is there an animal rescue or city pound near by they could call?
This would be a good, neighborly thing to do. You could also offer to help them write a better description of the dog.
I agree with you that a blind dog has long been eaten, but what can you do? Maybe it was a sick child's beloved pet. You can't know until you call.
I do think that this irritation of yours is a sign. Maybe the Almighty wants you to help these people and THAT'S why you have been so bothered by this ever since September.
I know that it's not politically correct to mention God on this website, but for goodness sake people, it IS almost Christmas!
Heather, I know how you feel about the tacky signs but I'm sure none of your friends or anyone who drives by your house think you put up that sign. Just try to ignore it if it bothers you. I like the idea of you offering to help them make better signs or finding some other way to help this family, even if it means buying them some poster board or offering to scan a picture for them or something. You can even scan a picture for them at any Kodak picture maker if you didn't want to do it at home. Sometimes we take for granted that people may not know the better way to do things and we can help. I see those homemade tacky signs all over the place for yard sales or what-have-you. I so badly want to tell them, if your sign was nicer, more people may come. :) I'm sure you'll do the right thing, even if it means just letting them hang their sign in front of your home.
Thank you all for your opinions. I want to stress that I do actually sympathize with this family. I know its rough to lose a beloved pet. While she has been gone since at least September, I'm sure it's even tougher during this season. I don't expect the family to give up all hope on finding their dog (my old basset hound took off and then walked in our front door six months later). Maybe its just me, but after three months, I wouldn't give up hope, but I would accept what most likely happened. After this long, if she is still alive, the people aren't giving her back. If the dog is going to return, she'll return on her own. You honestly can't miss the signs; as you enter the neighborhood, you are greeted with a huge, unfolded pizza box with big letters.
Some people in the neighborhood have taken down the signs posted in their yard. I personally would take that as "Oh, these people don't want signs posted in their yard." These people immediately replace the signs within a day. I would never call them and tell them their signs are ugly or trashy, or that their dog is dead so get over it, or to not put signs in my yard. Its just not me to do that.
Oh, and we live outside the city lines, so we own the property all the way into the street. The signs are county property, but like we can park a boat or RV in the street and can't be ticketed for it like you would within city lines. We don't have a homeowners association, but for the most part, there is just a general understanding/agreement to respect the neighborhood and clean up after yourself. If you have a garage sale, you take the signs down afterwards.