I personally don't agree with the rule of not allowing to adopt a dog if you have an intact animal. What if you wanted to show your dog because the way i understand, they have to be intact. So why not allow the adoption. Can't they just put a stipulation that the dogs must meet prior? I have an intact male and I have been thinking about showing him. Still looking in to it. But i would be very dissapointed if i wanted to get another dog and i was turned away because i have him.
In the case of an existing pet, perhaps temperment should be more of a question than the concern over it being intact or not? I've seen neutered males who can be FAR more aggressive than another who is intact.
"Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful".
That is true. There are no guarantees that two adult dogs are going to love each other, fixed or not. If they are both alpha you may be having issues.
Two of the families I mentioned DID have show males and they were NOT going to get them fixed just to adopt from a rescue. I don't know or recall what the other people's deal was.
Another factor that automatically disqualifies some people are the size of the other dogs in the home. I can understand this one to a point. As I said WAY earlier in this thread, small dogs are a premium in rescues. They CAN be picky on where they are placed. A small dog MAY be more at risk with a large dog in the home that it was not raised around.
I am on a Yorkie forum though and I can tell you that is a very sore spot with people trying to adopt another yorkie. IF they have a boxer or a pit or really any med or large dog, most rescues just say no-- with out ever even seeing the larger dog interact with the small one.
I know that Ginger and Dolly do great in my home with all the box-heads. So it can be done.
Boxers are like cookies you can't have just one :)
I have had a similarly difficult experience trying to find a small rescue dog. After I got my first dog from the local humane society I tried to get a second. I would say I tried for about two years--put in request forms at the humane society, followed petfinder, etc. We looked at many dogs at the humane society but no one was ever friendly enough. On Petfinder I turned in many applications and usually came very close. Often I just wasn't fast enough. One instance I turned in an app and was basically assured I would get the dog by one individual; I told that person I would be out of town for a few days and could be reached by e-mail or cell phone. Then someone else in the group only called my home and left a message, and a day later gave the dog to someone else. I gave up after a different rescue decided to adopt the dog I wanted to a family that lived closer (they told me that was the only reason; I was told I had a great app and they kept on trying to offer me different dogs for several weeks). Ironically, six months later I saw the dog I applied for on Petfinder, returned to rescue. By then I had lost interest since my #1 doggie is getting up in the years and has been having medical problems.
Rescues do very good work but I totally understand how people can become frustrated if they are looking for something specific. Mostly I blame myself for being so picky :)