bbkoo- female/male is a good combo because same sex dogs tend to be more aggressive with each other. the duo somehow balances most times. I didn't think our dogs would like each other, but it is the perfect match! they didn't play at first, but now they wrestle like crazy and are inseperable! good luck with whatever you decide.
Indifference turns clarity into denial. ~Quan Tracy Cherry
If you are "so confused" then maybe you should hold off on getting a second dog or any pet for that matter. Maybe you are puzzled for a reason --- intuition perhaps. You should not adopt a pet unless you are 110% sure about your decision.
bbkoo, you want to get a girl for your next dog? Train this girl to feed and take care of the dog for you, unless you like doing that yourself, then train her to leave the dog alone. But then, why would you have gotten her for the dog?
Before my Male Dog died, my Male Dog and Female Dog would fight like CRAZY! Scratch eachother and bite eachother, it was insane! And also, sometimes my grandma would bring over West-higland Terrier and they fight as well. But, that's my dogs. I would actually recomennd and Male because when they are the same gender, they usually get more aggressive. In your case though, I would hold off on a new dog because of your situation. But you choose whatever you want it's just my opinion!