I've been thinking about a 2nd dog for the past year... I'm not home all the time so i really want to companion for chocho... my major concern is the jealousy issue. He is a very jealous little guy. last year i moved in with a roomate who has a small chi, and my dog bullies and beats him up all the time. If other dogs come near me he will start growling at them.
I really don't want to get another dog then find out that it's too late. Then what do i do with the 2nd dog? How can i find out now if he's better off being alone or having a possible life time companion?
I would try sending him to doggy day care a couple of times(if there are any in your area.) Or go to a dog park. Get him socialized with other dogs and see how he behaves before bringing him a companion and getting stuck in a bad situation. Maybe he just doesn't like your roommate's dog but others would be ok? I know that my dog would just be a good boy because he knows that he's supposed to be, but he definitely would prefer not to share me with any other dogs. I recently brought home a Shih Tzu that a friend of my boyfriend needed to re-home because his Mom was going into a nursing home. He was a lovely little dog. But then once he realized that he was not just visiting the little bugger bit me. He sat down in my foyer and snapped at me every time I came near him. I just couldn't take the chance that he would turn on Max or the kitties when I was not around so I had to take him back. So then I found out that the dog has a history of trying to show dominance and being snappy. I realize now that it's just not fair to the critters I already have. (The cats spent the whole time poofed out with their backs arched so I am sure that they don't want another dog either) I was on a waiting list for one from a shelter but since that event, I have withdrawn my application.
never understood why people hate cats. i figure its usually people with self esteem issues that hate them. figure cats are not as forthcoming with their affection as a dog, and for those that need constant attention to affirm their self worth, they would choose a dog versus a cat. my take on it anyway. should mention that i am not saying you in particular have issues but that's the only thing i can think of as to why people hate cats other than maybe the litterbox cleaning.
seems to me your dog has demonstrated that he is intolerant of other animals so it doesn't seem to me that adding another dog to your household would be a bright idea. seems chocho likes being an only dog.
***Edited By: scout1 on 6/26/2008 11:02:16 AM*** Reason: .
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You can always take him with you to find another dog. Female dog might be the best, since it's more likely she will not try to take over. If it seems no dog gets along with your dog, try asking a behavoir expert for advice.
Whoa there, you guys don't have to take such a comment so close to the heart and personal. It's not as if she specifically lashed out at you guys.
If you get your dog from a good rescue, they will let you and your dog visit the potential adoptee and see how they get along in neutral territory. They will also be able to tell you about the dog's play style, quirks, obedience and behavior, whether it is good with cats, so on and so forth. And they will have a grace period for you to return the dog, if it just isn't working out. Before we decided to get another dog, first Albie had been through multiple training classes and had play dates with other dogs, so we knew he was socialized, knew his play style, how he got on when strange dogs, and what kind of dogs he got along better with. Then we wanted to be sure that he didn't have any issues with dogs in his territory, so we asked my sister if we could puppy sit her dog overnight and see how things went. Albie was thrilled until he realized the dog wasn't going home before bedtime, but though he was obviously unhappy about sharing the bed, he was never agressive or tried to start something with the new dog. No problems eating next to the dog either. So we decided that with some work, a new dog overall would be a good addition.
What's wrong with disliking cats? I am not suggesting that we torture cats but why be forced to like them. I do not enjoy the smell of a dirty litter box. I have better things to do than scoop up cat poop. Lastly, I do not like cat hair everywhere. It's a personal preference and I do not think it speaks about my self-esteem or self-worth. To the original poster, I suggest you hold off on a second pet. Manage the pet you currently own. He would benefit from proper socialization and possibly puppy training classes.
ooo... i didn't know i actually offended ppl by hating cats... everyone has preferences. no need to be offended. Would I still offend you if i say I REALLY HATE STRAWBERRIES when probably 99% of the ppl here locve strawberries? It's the same thing with cats, i just don't like them.
I don't like cats for personal reasons, my mom had a very horrible experience with cas when she was small. I guess that influenced me. I also don't like their personality.
Um... Do i give off the impression that i don't socialize my dog? I actually don't know how else i could socialize him more! He goes to the dog park weekly, he meets new people all the time. He plays with my friends' dogs whenever i go visit. He's very OK with other ppl's dogs, just not a 'sibling' i guess.
bbkoo, since I always have thought that a lone dog is kind of sad...don't jump all over me, those with 1 dog, I'm not critisizing The reason I think this way is because I can't imagine any one of my dogs living alone. They play for hours with each other. That being said,I realize that many people own one dog, and that dog is perfectly fine. With this little dog, I think a playmate might be just the ticket. I would take your dog to the pound, shelter, rescue,and introduce him to the little girls. You can take your time, and even bring one home for a trial run. Good luck finding the perfect playmate.
My opinion would be to hold off. You already know his temperament around other dogs and the last thing you'd want to do is give up that 2nd dog after you've already bought it. Unless like Pen suggested, give a dog a trial run at home and see if the two connect (didn't know you can do that) which would probably be the smartest way to go, if you really want another dog.
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what kind of dog where you thinking about? Maybe a female would be best. Perhaps you should look into a more independent breed or mix. Another "lap dog" might be upsetting to your current dog. Then again I have heard that some dogs prefer their own breed so maybe another yorkie might work.
I am a reluctant cat person; I have four now. I was never that crazy about them (cats in general; I'm nuts about my own) and do think dogs have a the advantage. I would be so happy if I never had to clean another litter box. I also think cat hair is "stickier" than dog hair, at least my dogs' hair. My guys (and girls) are worth the work but I see myself in a cat free home someday. You could've said you didn't like cats in a nicer way, but I wasn't offended.
i don't think what you said was offensive. It's your opinion. you didn't say anything negative ABOUT cats, just about how YOU feel regarding them. I dislike cats because i am horribly allergic to them- always have been. it's hard to like something that causes you to break out in hives and makes it difficult to breathe! has nothing to do with the animal, just what their dander does to me.
As for a second dog- did you introduce your friend's dog in a neutral area? i would guess the bullying to be a territorial behavior more than a hatred of other dogs. if you find a dog you think you might want to bring to your family, see if you can introduce them in a neutral are - like the dog park- first.
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Just because its a female doesnt mean it wont be able to "take on" your male.
When I brought home Stryder... Kiba wanted nothing to do with Stryder. Now they're the best of buds. They each get personal time with me - they used to get jealous of each other.. especially Kiba would attack Stryder is I paid attention to him. But now she doesnt even care.. and now I think he remembers that.. cuz when she's getting attention he pushes her out of the way since he's so much bigger than he is. LOL.