I'm not real crazy about strangers petting my dogs. Mainly because of my frame of mind. I take my dogs with me in the evenings to my sons sports practices (baseball, football etc.), so when I have them with me - I'm normally splititng my attention between them and my son. I think it's a good opportunity for my dogs to learn to be aware of people, but to ignore them. I am known to say "no" to as many adults as kids.
If someone walks up and goes to pet them without asking, I watch til there hand is just about to touch them and I say, "I would prefer if you would not touch my dog". When they ask "why", which they inevitably do - I have several answers... 1) You did not ask 2) They're in training 3) Because I said so 4) I will not allow my dogs to reach out and touch you without asking and I will not allow you to reach out and touch them without asking.
I am pretty big on teaching kids about dog etiquette... for instance, the proper question is NOT "Does your dog bite" - it is "May I pet your dog?" Again - I answer the question asked... 1) yes, my dogs bite - they bite their food, they bite their bones and they've been known to bite themselves 2) My dogs have never bitten a human - but there is a first time for everything and I don't want you to be the first. and then there's the PMS days when I simply ask... "Why do you want to know?"
I find that more adults reach out and touch my dogs than kids... and I also find that kids are much more apt to listen than adults are.
Well Yes and no, I'm ok with it if someone respects the fact that they are my dogs and not some public display or something, and they ask first. Id get a little upset if some man came over and started petting my child, so the same goes for the dogs. If this only happened once every couple of months then no I wouldnt care so much, but with Bulldogs, every friggin person wants to pet them, after a while it starts to get annoying, people cross busy roads to see them, its crazy.
If you don't want people to look at them or touch your dog, keep them at home, then people won't bug you or your dog. Otherwise, if you have them out and about in public, they are fair game, just like a cute baby.
In my area if you take your dog out-- you will get a lot of attention and we are friendly mid-westerners. I would find it RUDE to refuse or chastise some one for petting or attempting to pet my dog.
I don't, I am happy to have them pet my dogs, it is a compliment and nice for the dogs. I just accept that people are 'relaxed' in their attitude about pets here. So if they go with the family to a park, lake, pet store, trip.... I expect them to have people touch/pet them. If I didn't though, I would leave them home:)
Well when people pet rave i don't mind. when i am walking and see a dog i ask before i pet them because i know dogs can bit. when people pet rave i say they can most the time. most people in my nieghborhood don't like dogs so i like to see little kids pet rave and yogi not my rott amber most don't want to pet her:)
Whoever compared it to babies.. you are right in that aspect... however, if ANYONE would have just walked up to my baby and touched him without my permission they would have been picking themselves up off the floor. I live in the friendly midwest too... I live in Ohio. BUT - no matter how friendly people are here.. we have our fair share of freaks and criminals. Moreover... just because I have my child or my dogs out in public does not give every Tom, Dick and Harry permission to touch what's mine. Ask, and if I say no - accept it, I'm not being rude, perhaps I know something about my dogs that you don't...
"If you don't want people to look at them or touch your dog, keep them at home, then people won't bug you or your dog. Otherwise, if you have them out and about in public, they are fair game, just like a cute baby."
I'm sorry, but I completely disagree.
No one in their right mind would have dared walked up to me and touched my son when he was a baby without asking. They won't come up to ME and put their hands on me. Either of the above would result in a tongue lashing or a bash upside the head. My kid is not fair game, I'm not fair game, and when I take my dog out for a walk, that is not a proclamation of fair game on his behalf.
I think I have a right to take my dog out without having to worry about people coming up out of the blue and touching him without asking. It's this little thing called respect or common courtesy.
My dog has been abused and is terrified of people. I should be allowed to help him overcome that fear, but I can't fix that by hiding him in my house every day as suggested.
I have to take him out and allow him to learn that being outside our yard is okay, that being across the street from a stranger is alright, and that nothing bad is going to happen to him when someone asks to pet him and I have him "sit" and meet someone new.
It's really, for any dog, a safety thing. We should all teach our children to ask before touching anyone else's dog, because it's really ignorant to assume that you're not going to get bit when you march up to some strange dog and stick your hand out at it.
Not all dogs are nice, and not all scared dogs just pee themselves like mine. Some bite or lunge, and some dogs, well, you just can't always predict what they're going to do, so to be safe, and to be respectful, I think it's best to have someone ASK before they put their hands on my dog.
You know I bet that does have a lot to do with it. Boxers are very experessive. Their butts are wigglin', they have a HUGE smile on their face and their eyes are buggin' out and they are just saying 'PLEASE PET ME!!!!!! OH GOD PLEASE PET ME!!!!!!'
Traumma, Your bullies are beautiful! I have 2 Corsos and a Rottweiler so people always ask. I have a freind with a little Lhaso Apso (sp) that people will just run up to to pet and that little thing will try to take you finger off if she decides she doesnt like you. I've had complete strangers come up and ask to hold my baby- are they nuts?
I don't think it's a good analogy to compair dogs to human babies in this case. A lot of human see dogs as DOGS, even though we treat these dogs as our babies. But to a lot of people, especially those without pets, don't see dogs as human, they don't feel they have to ask the dog "can I pet you?". They won't understand they need to treat dogs the same way as human.
I wasn't compareing children to dogs, but your right, some people see dogs as possessions, it doesn't ,mean people should just go running towards animals to pet them, its not my problem that people are not educated about animals. BUt it is my responsibility as an owner to protect the public if I need to.(Not saying my dogs are a risk) But I have heard of people touching babies with out asking and then haveing the mother freak at them. I don't go to many public places, usually they are remote and I see very little in the way of the public, which I do on purpose. I'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that they are unusual dogs, so people are interested (I know this and except it) But I've literally had to walk quickly or run to avoid someone, or someone with a dog. People just seem to be a little nutz, when it comes to dogs. If I had a fearful dog, I would think an it would be my responsibility to avoid people if need be. I think some people also like the attention they get from people about their dogs, thats fine, but I don't seek that in any way, I'm just trying to exersise them. Trust me I've had alot of strange experienses with people.